Doesn’t want sex but watches porn

Sorry for the long post, I’m just looking for a bit of advice on what to do. History: I’ve always had a higher sex drive than my partner, there have been a couple of times this has caused a slight niggle but nothing major. During pregnancy he said that he didn’t feel comfortable us having sex while I was pregnant, I found this odd but I didn’t really fancy it very often - thank you very much daily “morning” sickness - so it wasn’t too much of an issue. He said that he knew this would change afterwards so I wasn’t too worried. We’re now 7m pp and have only had sex once at Christmas, he shows no interest in me physically and whenever I’ve discussed this he says it’s because I’m still EBF so he feels like my body is still our daughters and it wouldn’t be right. I had my suspicions so I’ve looked at his computer this morning and can see that he has been on a lot of porn yesterday while I was out with baby all day. I’ve then looked back and can see that basically whenever I’m out he’s looking at stuff online. I’m okay ish with porn but only as long as we’re having sex as well; I have expressed a number of times previously that I find it really hurtful that he would rather look at porn than have sex with me, it really effects my confidence and I don’t think it’s right. My dilemma now is, should I bring the subject up with him, and how? Obviously I shouldn’t really have looked at his history (we do share the computer for Amazon prime etc so he knows I go on there frequently) but I’m now really hurt and I really don’t understand why he’d rather look at that then actually have sex. Yes my body has changed but surely actually having sex is better than porn? I’ve made it abundantly clear that I still want him but I get nothing back and it’s really getting me down and making me feel self conscious etc.
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@Chantal exclusively breastfeeding xx

Definitely bring up why you aren’t having sex. No need to pussy foot. I would ask why he wants to jerk off to porn instead of have sex and why that is enough for him

Porn is a no go for me but I had the same issue he never wanted sex but I did. Yet there was always porn in his history. He’s had an addiction and now that it’s been a few years and I feel I don’t trust what he does or says but I think he’s hopefully got it handled now. I’d for sure bring it up if it crosses any boundary for you.

You should communicate this with him. Tell him how his actions are causing more issues. Have a date night once a week. Play couple games bring back the intimacy not just in sex. You both need to have time to value and appreciate each other and start with the simple things like saying … thank you when a nice small gesture was made or out of no where just call him and say I miss you and I love you have a good day can’t wait to see you at home. These little changes can help start to breakdown the walls or shorten the distance you guys make be experiencing. I pray you get through this as I know it’s a very uncomfortable situation you’re in.

I watch a lot of porn but it’s always just a tool to help me orgasm and get on with my day. I have a very high sex drive and it would be impractical to have sex as much as I’d like to with my partner. Masturbation with the help of porn is just cleaner/faster

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