When to have sex after birth…

Thank you for posting this! Along with being annoying, it really breaks my heart when I see these types of posts. Our bodies are SO amazing! They deserve the utmost respect. The best thing you can do for yourself after giving birth is talking care of yourself and allowing yourself to heal 🌱 💛

I waited 2 months and still didn’t feel comfortable then. It’s a red flag when your husband/boyfriend can’t wait at LEAST 6 weeks because they are exposing you to germs and infections with the large wound in your uterus. They can use their hand, it’s not life or death. It’s also dangerous for your body to be pregnant back-to-back. Your risk for miscarriage increases.

I waited 6 weeks but was still worried and didn’t feel great bc my tear was still healing. I didn’t get any infection but still felt like waiting longer. I could’ve easily waited like 4-5 months or more.

There’s a lot of mums on here with dogs for partners, I swear. I’ve seen mums saying he would only wait a week! 😔 prioritising our health and well-being is the most important thing to care for our babies, not him getting his rocks off and getting infections and burst stitches 😞

After i had my 1st, 14 years ago, i waited 8 weeks. This time, its been 4 weeks and i probably will wait at least 4 more. #1 i didnt realize the placenta wound thing although it makes sense and #2 if they cant wait, theyre not worth being with..period.

What helped you get back to enjoying sex

@Mandy https://bit.ly/intimacyevolutionblog My second blog post is my step-by-step process that helped me and what I’ve shared with my clients. 🤍

I’m the one that jumped right into it after 4 weeks! I could not wait any longer 😂 I’m sorry.

Yup, I waited 3-4 months but that’s just cuz I didn’t wanna do anything while my stitches were still healing (took a long time to dissolve) but also your cervix is still open for awhile; it takes a while to close and so with it being open it can cause bacteria from sex to be able to travel up there and give you a terrible infection, not only that but if you get pregnant during healing you could possibly end up with a failing pregnancy or have some medical issues when it comes to fetus and yourself. So yes, it is extremely important to wait. If you want to have sex, you can do other things besides vaginal sex

I want to have sex again but I'm waiting the full 6 weeks and to be signed off by the GP untill my partner wants to do it again. I do want sex. And am anxious to do it again. It yes... I'm waiting the full 6 weeks.

I did not wait long at all. No pressure from outside, I just didn't want to wait any longer. Now I feel like I should be ashamed of it though 😅

How long do I have to wait if I had a c section? Is it still the same amount of time?

@Talia Yes bc your Uterus still has to heal. It’s an open wound no matter what way you gave birth.

@Megan no shaming, but definitely a question that comes up a lot. Women are told to wait 6 weeks but are rarely told why and the repercussions of what could happen if they don’t. It’s about educating so women are aware and can make informed decisions 🤍

I’ve waited 5 weeks after my c-sectiom and then i’ve got infected with mixed anaerobes🙄🙄so next time defoo i will wait

We waited the 6 weeks and it hurt like crazy cause I had a tear. We waited 8 months and it still hurt then, but less. Finally tried again after she was 19 months, and it no longer hurts. Things take time to heal, especially on me; I tend to take twice as long to heal compared to the general populace.

I'm less than 2 weeks postpartum and finding my partner irresistible. I have a first degree labia tear with sutures and will most-likely need to wait longer than 6 weeks for them to heal.. Is anyone else having a hard time taming your libido post-partum? I wasn't expecting to be so horny!

We waited 8 weeks but then after that it was atleast another couple of months

It took me about 4.5 months with my first son to truly feel any type of desire to have sex or any nature of sex. I had a c section and I was really scared about my c section cut opening up from positions. Took it really slow

I waited 6 months

Just do it when you feel it confront I had a C section and i couldn't lay down until a couple weeks after i felt better dont remember tbh i know for sure it was before my daughter was 2 months

@Courtney Olivia you have a baby size wound on the inside you can’t see it’s to prevent infection

They literally have to pull the placenta off and out of your uterus. thats like having a huge scab and picking it off. The uterus is an amazing organ.

@Brianna if I remember it says why in the discharge papers, but let’s be real, who actually reads their papers.

The advice in the UK is that you can do it whenever you feel OK 🤔🤨

@Courtney Olivia it’s actually wise to wait longer. It’s not even enjoyable immediately bc most people need more time & to strengthen pelvic floor muscles too & loosen scar tissue. I wish I waited 6 months or longer to start again. You likely won’t really enjoy it as much until all your sexual muscles are strengthened & any scars heal.

@Courtney you are spreading unhealthy information. It’s not even wise to get pregnant again or healthy until 6 -18 months postpartum. I hope you don’t get infections or suffer miscarriages bc of your careless behavior

@Courtney Olivia I am over 3 years postpartum & definitely have no issues - you assuming I do for following & teaching sexual health & guidelines is extremely immature please go get help. You shouldn’t be speaking about things you have no understanding or education about like this either. I am an educator & pelvic floor therapist.

@Hope 3 for me 😂

@Marie hey I just wanted to update you! I’m 12 weeks today. no infections. and I’ve been getting my shit railed multiple times a day. you should try it!

Reported that immature abusive person

Spreading misinformation about health for women postpartum is extremely dangerous & just downright sick to do. It’s a shame someone or maybe even a bot on here would do that, but it happens. I would definitely follow the OP’s advice & please disregard the immature poster’s misinformation & potentially dangerous advice. They may or may not even be a real human.

@Marie I went through and removed all of her comments. Completely unnecessary behavior and I specifically state in the post to not post any unsafe or misinformation. Thank you for being an advocate for proper postpartum care 🤍

@Thiffany

I was told 6 weeks I had a baby on the 28 of October and this time by husband is sticking to it 🤦‍♀️

@Ruthie Congrats on your sweet bundle! 🤍 That’s so tough, because that’s the only information guys receive. 😓. Here’s a blog post I wrote that talks about transitioning back to sexy time after having a baby. And I think reframing the “all clear” means you’re able to get back to more movement, taking a bath but penetrative sex is not always desired by the mom but the connection part with their partner is desired. So hopefully this helps to open up that dialogue for you two. https://www.intimacyevolution.com/post/bringing-sexy-back-how-to-enjoy-intimacy-after-baby