My daughter’s father told me he doesn’t want me anymore 🥺💔
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Sister, I wish I could hug you!!!! That is soooo much!!! I am not in your position, and I understand that feelings are super hard to deal with when trying to rationalize. I just want to through out there though….. please PLEASE do not let a man belittle you in that way because you are having a baby with him… I made that mistake and he kidnapped mine and it took me 3 months in court to get my baby back. You should continue to stand up in your feelings. And (I know it’s harder said than done) but do not go back, and maybe even don’t next him until the baby is born. Please message me for any emotional support!! I will every day remind you that you are a freaking QUEEN!!! And you deserve better than someone holding you as his second choice. I don’t pray, but I am getting you all the positive and reassuring vibe to you than I can!!!
I'm so sorry you passing thru all this girly 😥 pregnancy is full of emotions and ups and downs. Some people will not care about our feelings even when we are there for them and love them so much, but you know what? You're so value, you're beautiful, strong and soon the mom of a beautiful princess, it's going to be hard but thing on her, do your best for her, be sure you work on yourself in all ways so you can give her the best example , show her how strong you are and show her how you decide to love yourself and her first that anyone ❤️ I don't know you but if you want to talk with someone I'm here 🙏❤️ I'm prying for you and your princess tonight 💖
Your in a really tough spot especially because your pregnant and you feel that attachment to that man. Which is why it’s going to be hard but you need to realize that he’s taking you on a rollercoaster ride. In my opinion he doesn’t want the commitment to you and he’s trying to blame it on you and leading you on 🥺 this whole situation makes me so sad just imagining it but it would make me so happy to see you one day over him and putting yourself and your baby first. Just don’t let him go out and have his fun then come back to you when he thinks he’s ready to settle. I don’t know how I would handle this kind of rejection being pregnant because I was crazy. But your baby will be okay as long as she has her mom there for her and if he wants to be in her life then great but if it were me girl I’d get that paternity test and put that A-hole on child support and live my best life with my baby.
@Leka thank you pretty girl ❤️ and yes always gaslighting he’ll act like he cares and understands and be all sweet then I feel like the next day it’s the same thing he makes this whole process feel like hell…
@Illiazha that is so sweet 🥺🩷 and thank you. Any man that can watch me cry and basically just want him to do right by me doesn’t care and does not deserve me in any way. I should’ve watched out and not ignored the red flags because of being so in love. I’m paying for it now, but the biggest blessing rn is my daughter. ❤️❤️ and thank you so much for the positivity 😚😚
@Eleanna oh he’s in the military and he’s gonna have to put the baby on his benefits and pay child support like all military folks married or not it’s their duty to pay. He understands that. But yes, we had all this time to get it right before our daughter gets here but it will never sit right with me if he tried to come back it would be super awkward. I’ve been on the roller coaster ride for almost two years and keep getting on and giving my hopes up and it’s my fault I kept even letting him treat me like this, but I don’t want my daughter around that dysfunction and she deserve so much and girl yes I’ve been crazy and had my moments 😂 but man this hurts to the core!!! It’s a tough attachment for sure cause I’m always afraid to open up and it took him a while to break thru that only to break my trust 😓💔 his mom not ish neither and his lack of accountability and not able to voice his feelings was always interpreted as disrespect , now it spilled over into his relationship with me smh
@De'Asia I hope things get easier for you!!! I am here for you in any way you need!!! Even if it’s just to call and cry
He’s a narcissist and you need to get out ASAP 😕 but girly, Love yourself more and don’t ever let a man tell you twice he doesn’t want you! … kick him to the curb because even being alone with your little one is better than with someone who can’t give you the love you deserve 🤷🏻♀️ also “you’re too good for me” normally means “I know I should be better but I’m not willing to change for you” and it’s a test to see how far you’ll go to stay with him - like you’re not the one but he’ll keep you there as a supply, Snapchat with a grown man is a red flag, who you snapping and why? Snapchat is for sexual content tbh , never compare yourself!! You are enough for anyone and trust on that! - it’s horrible to go through but watch how strong you can be for your LO 💗
@Raven it’s so crazy that I even have to go thru this and I’m just seeing the nightmare I’m gonna have to deal with. No other female would ever put up with this tbh. And btw our daughter’s name will be raven 😭 so nice to meet you 😂❤️❤️
@Ayari so sweet, thank you mama 😚🙏🏽 and I have to just take all of this into account and just breathe because I have someone else who’s gonna look up to me 🥺❤️ and I will definitely take this time to get myself right as well
@Rachel a narc for sure!! and yess I would hear he doesn’t want me but then i would think it’s out of anger and that he didn’t mean it but that’s when you truly know how a person feels about you when they say things out of anger. I’ll never forget this time where I needed him most and how I felt it’s disgusting and I feel sorry for my daughter.. and I agree cause snap is very outdated and it’s a huge red flag but i know I’m gonna come out this alive and flourishing 🥰🥰
I know that must be so hard to be in a situation like this. I hope for your child’s sake he comes around whether you guys are together or not. Yes you can’t give her that “family” but you can be the best mother regardless of any situation. Maybe it’ll be good to give each other space(give him his space) to see if that’s what he needs. Idk how old you guys are but him being in the military maybe put him in a situation where he gets to be single not technically but I’m sure if he’s going out a lot with his friends most of them are either single or cheating as well. But at the end of the day you never want to settle for someone who can’t give you their 100%. But suggest handling your business, and focusing on the baby. Hopefully he comes around, but leaving him alone will give him his time to think about his priorities and if he chooses you and your child I hope he shows actions to prove he’s worth it
@Nami you’re so right too but this definitely rubs me the wrong way, cause it’s like how can you come back from this you know 😓 but I’m blessed with my daughter and I’m upset I put her in the middle of all of this …I’m 25 and he’s 23 so yes very young and have so much in life to figure out and it’s definitely hard 😢
@Rebecca love this!!! and you’re right and i definitely felt codependent in a way from fear of abandonment and just making myself to available. But definitely gonna do everything I can and put all my focus on my daughter and do everything I can to get thru this ❤️❤️
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He cheated on you 😳 you are beautiful and dont ever let any man make you feel that you are not this guy is an ass and you deserve much better. You are heartbroken just now but once your beautiful baby is born nothing else will matter. I'm sending you a virtual hug just now. All I can advise is I've been gas lighted and it is horrid but I found the strength to leave its hard to let go but you will find the strength your a strong woman who has been through so much and you are stronger than you know xxx
Hey mumma, Firstly I would like to remind you … you are beautiful from the inside out, you are strong and you are brave. This man has been gaslighting you And showing serious narcissistic tendencies! The relationship breaking down is not because you aren’t good enough , it’s because you aren’t growing together , elevating together , learning etc! it should be a mutual relationship, where talking about your feelings is important so you can get to know one another. You seem like you have a big heart, never dim your light to fit in ANYWHERE ! question the relationship not your worth!! Focus on showing up for yourself , use this time to show yourself the love and care you deserve! And your baba . You will get through this one step at a time ❤️
I'm right there with you
He doesn’t speak the same love language as you or at least he doesn’t want to. But the best thing to do is move on. No point in stressing yourself out with the back and forth, hot and cold, wishy washy tactics! He says he is done, let him be and you focus on you and your baby. Also know that just because it didn’t work out with him doesn’t mean it won’t workout with someone else. I hate when women cancel out possibilities of having a happy life just because things didn’t work out with one man. The heck with him! Take this time to work on yourself and rebuild yourself up because nobody can make you secure until you are secure with yourself. That’s why you constantly need reassurance right now because you’re not sure about yourself and it’s because of him! If he wants you, make him work for it, make him earn your trust back! Good luck to you and I wish you the best.
Im about to give birth and my boyfriend is throwing around the word compare ting break up etc because we got in a huge fight yesterday. It’s like cmon worst timing ever! They really just don’t consider what we’re going through and feeling a lot of the time it’s just all about them
Yeah your child didn't ask for this. But It would be much worse to stay with a man who doesn't appreciate you. Do you really want her to learn that it's normal to have to claw your way to any affection? Your baby needs to know that all women are worth more than a one-sided relationship. You are not a doormat. You deserve better and so does your child. Get your revenge by being happy without him. He'll have to pay his way but that does not entitle him limitless forgiveness. It's a safe assumption that the same way he behaves in a relationship is likely the way he's going to behave as a father, so be prepared for that. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. My child's father is an abusive jailbird and it didn't start out that way so I get it.
@Jessica I just feel so dumb. We dated for 10 years before getting married. He was "perfect" in every way. But as soon as we got married, he just changed.
@Ariane Denise ain't that the truth. I'm sorry you're going through all that and while pregnant. That's so shitty of him.
Thank you beautiful mothers for the kind and positive words and vibes. I see all of your messages and I’m so blessed to have you all here to talk with and share insight on this forum and to not feel so alone. Thank you, thank you!!! Sending you all love! 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
I checked your profile… YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Please consider writing some affirmations, words of love, for yourself on your mirror and say them everyday. This will be such a beautiful thing to do with your daughter as well. I would try to use her as a mirror… you want her to feel beautiful without needing a man to tell her(not that he shouldn’t) but try and give yourself all the self love that you will instill in her. And to that point… I know a happy family is the dream, but it sounds like he’s right abt 1 thing.. he’s not good enough for you. He would have never put you through what you’ve already dealt with pre-baby if he deserved you. I think it’s wonderful if she will have a dad to have a relationship with… but babies don’t often turn men into good partners and I hope that hindsight will be 20/20. That a man will walk into your life and be a phenomenal example to your daughter on how a woman should be treated. That you will be happy he didn’t want more because you found better.
@Riley 🌻 such an amazing idea for my daughter, thanks mama for the positive words of wisdom. And I’m looking forward and not back I promise I’m trying my hardest to move on
@Heidi Louise so sorry that happened to you love, men ey? They can be heartless creatures especially at a vulnerable time I’m here for you as well! 😓💗
Ladies, I love this forum this is amazing thank you all!!! 🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️
Omg you are so pretty. He did you a huge favor you don't deserve someone who cheats on you and gaslights you.
@PJ thank you mama 🥺💗💗💗
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@De'Asia your Raven and my Robin can have future playdates one day if you like. It can be tough outchea in Jax to find a HEALTHY support system.
It sounds like he's gaslighting you. He doesn't want you but he also doesn't want anyone else to have you. I know it's hard but just focus on you and your baby 💙
He’s totally gaslighting you! You DESERVE someone who wants to be with you! I’m sorry you’re having to go through this pregnant! All I can tell you is that you’re gonna come out stronger than ever! You got this mama! ♥️