Heyy, just wanted to say that I am in a very similar situation. I am 18 weeks pregnant and living alone at 22.. no longer in a relationship with the baby’s father. While I can’t actually offer any practical guidance, I just wanted to let you know that I feel EXACTLY the same as you. The feelings of not being able to provide my daughter with enough due to being a single mum is massively overwhelming and terrifying! I have never experienced such feelings of anxiety and depression in my life. Just like you, I am trying to stay hopeful and positive for this new journey with my little girl. If you want to reach out to me to talk feel free. Would love to navigate this together!🥹💕
@Holly thank you so much for your kind words, they are very much appreciated💗
I’m a single mum. Different situation. Dads not involved. It’s hard but so rewarding. Being a single mum is a super power x
Also April babies are the best! Had my son in April this year x
I’m 37 and 37 weeks pregnant. My BD left me around 5 months pregnant said he couldn’t do it after 3 yrs together. He’s already seeing someone else…but…I felt exactly the same. And now I feel much calmer without him involved and you just have to focus on you and baby. 21 and owning a house is a bloody achievement sounds like your baby is going to be super lucky and you’ve got your ducks in a row. Don’t let the BD create any toxicity and enjoy the pregnancy cos it’s over fast. Xx
You are already doing a great job. If you have an extra room, rent it! That's what I do. It helps me paying my mortgage and at the same time I don't feel so lonely.
Reading this I can see some amazing achievements that show me you are massively underestimating yourself. You’re so young and you own a home, that’s amazing. You have a safe place that’s yours to offer your child. You recognise that the relationship with her father isn’t good and you’re trying to create a healthy one first. You’re already providing her with the life she deserves and she’s not here yet. Remind yourself how amazing you are. Your ex might be a tosser but soon you will be holding a beautiful little girl who will make it all worth it xx