Cry it out method

Never do the cry it out method! Your baby is crying for something please don’t do this method it works for some but for most it doesn’t 🥺

I suggest you do some research on different methods , there are varying amounts of time that methods recommend you let them cry, at the end of the day it’s up to you though. I went with Taking Cara Babies where you go in at 5, 10, 15 min until they go to sleep

Personally would never do this method. I have a 3.5 year old that still wakes once in the night. I'd rather have that than ignore them when they need me. I understand there are reasons for wanting to but most of the time there are other options to help get them off to sleep.

I am not going to start a whole argument about this, just want to say that sleep training is not ignoring them , it’s teaching them to comfort themselves like we do everyday, and you do not need to just leave your child to cry, you can comfort them while they are in their bed

This is something new that I'm trying. We usually co-sleep but I want her to start sleeping in her cot. At first I put on white noise and rub her tummy until she settles. Then I leave the room and do the 5, 10, 15 min rubbing her tummy each time I go in but I feel guilty because she's so used to me being with her constantly. After a bit I just bring her into my bed because I'm exhausted at that point

So based on what I have read about sleep training it will never work if at some point you actually take them out of the crib … now if they are sick that is one thing you can give them extra comfort ( but you will go through some difficulty when they are better getting them to settle on their own again) … but when I took the takin Cara Babies course she basically explained like someone playing a slot machine in a casino , if that machines pays out one time (meaning you go and get your baby from the crib after some amount of Time) the gambler will keep playing and playing until there is another win (meaning your baby will actually cry longer and longer because they think at some point you are going to come in) I know it sounds so cruel when you say it like that , but I highly recommend the class it explained it in a way that made a lot of sense , if you keep going in for short periods of time and comforting in the crib they will eventually fall asleep

My advice is to jump onto reddit r/sleeptrain and get some advice from mamas that have done it. I sleep trained both of my children at different ages and the best advice I got was from people who had actually done it. There are so many different styles of sleep training so if you are struggling with cry it out then you may find something more manageable for you and baby. And don't worry they're not all monsters who leave their kids to cry all the time 🙂

If it’s for your own well-being struggling with the cry etc, no child has ever died of crying. If it’s for sleep Etc a cry is a way of them communicating with you

Please read this and do your research before you consider leaving your baby to cry, sleep is a developmental skill which cannot be taught and not responding to baby’s cries only teaches them to shut down in the knowledge that their cries will be in vain. I have an hourly waker and we have to cosleep to get by so get how tough it is. The way I see it, not sleeping is temporary but the lifelong implications of being left to cry it out on baby’s mental and emotional health last a lifetime. Any benefit of sleep training is also evidenced as disappearing in toddlerhood with a lot of children sleeping worse due to increased separation anxiety which peaks at this age. Baby’s cry as their only form of communication to indicate a need, cognitively speaking it is impossible for a baby to ‘learn’ to comfort themselves. https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/06/30/self-settling-what-really-happens-when-you-teach-a-baby-to-self-soothe-to-sleep/

We did the 5, 10, 15 mins. Never longer than 15 mins (feels like a lifetime anyway) And never pick them up, we just put his dummy in and stroked his back until he calmed down

Also I just want to note, my mum advised me to try this and she fostered around 30 babies from birth until 2 years and did this with them all. Always worked x

@charlotte I wish she still liked the dummy I feel like that would help soothe her alot better