Velcro babies

In my opinion there is no such thing as a Velcro baby. Babies only have primal instincts to go off of. Humanity has occupied earth for approximately 300,000 years, humans used to live in temporary shelters up until about 11,000 years ago when more permanent homes were built, cribs weren’t invented until sometime between the 1600s-1800s. Before that they were in their mother’s arms or on their backs. Babies depended on their parents to survive. That doesn’t change because we have houses and phones and cars. Babies don’t come into this world knowing that we no longer hunters and gathers and that we don’t have apex predators hunting us. And in many places in the world they do still operate that way. Baby kangaroos don’t leave their mother’s pouch until 8 months, baby monkeys cling to their mothers until 12-18 months old. So if ur baby clings to you, it’s what they are supposed to do, as they have done for over 300,000 years. We need to stop trying to force babies to be so independent. Human babies take the longest to fully develop compared to any other creature in the animal kingdom for a reason.

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After the first sentence I was getting ready to fight 😂 but after reading the rest, I wholeheartedly agree with you

I didn’t force my baby to be independent, she just is! I think babies all differ in their needs and wants as we do, and some are naturally clingier and some have more independence. Wouldn’t mind some more cuddles from little miss 😂

Babies ok I guess. But I have a Velcro toddler 🥴 he’s almost 3, he’s heavy, doesn’t like a stroller and wants me to carry him around all the time. I’m ready for him to stop being a Velcro 😁

My baby all around just wants me. My friend said it’s my fault. She used to be okay with being held by her when she was smaller but now that she’s teething she just wants me and her daddy only.

My eldest was 100% a Velcro baby/still is at the age of 5, but my youngest loves her independence 😂

@Charlotte my daughter is also more independent, but i was talking about the language scientists and doctors and other parents may use to “diagnose” children. I just don’t like the negative connotation that the term “Velcro baby” puts on a child. Because in makes it seem as the child is being spoiled for being held “too much” or poorly behaved or a “bad baby” and should be forced to cry it out to break the habit.. But I wasn’t talking about parents with independent children in a bad way. I just think there’s a lot of negativity around more dependent children when it’s really just a child in their primal state looking to their parents for safety and protection. My daughter was called a “good baby” because she slept a lot and didn’t cry much at all if I put her down. But with that logic they r basically calling more dependent babies “bad babies” which isn’t right. Hope that makes sense

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In my personal opinion I agree completely . I think today’s society is built on a way to make good parenting impossible . I’m not throwing judgement on anyone or any situation bc I can’t parent the way I want bc I need to work 40+ hours a week to afford to raise my baby . I think babies should be with mama until they feel safe and comfortable enough to not be . 2 months postpartum I had to return to work and it has been the most heart wrenching and terrifying thing I’ve ever had to do . Leave my baby ?? And we are expected to with little to no problems . I don’t think an independent baby is wrong but I can say from experience it fucks you up, I was extremely independent growing up and it made me miss out on a lot of things . Feeling the whole world on your shoulders from an extremely young age is what a lot of independent babies grow up to experience . A “good kid” is good bc they are terrified . Again no judgement on anyone bc I understand situations and what life throws at you .

I feel so much guilt for something I can’t control as a mother in today’s society . Society has and will continue to fuck us all, all we can do is try our best to raise good happy humans . Idk if anything I said makes any sense but I feel very strongly about this and it makes me incredibly sad

I think you raise some really interesting points, I enjoyed reading it. I’ve never assumed a Velcro baby was a bad thing, I’ve actually experienced it the other way round with how independent my 1 year old is, a lot of people assume I leave her all the time and don’t interact with her much, when actually I’m a full time SAHM 🤷‍♀️ can’t win either way apparently 😂

@Eiley In a lot of other countries they give parents at least a year paid maturity leave. Here in America they wanna make independent little soldiers, ripping parents from their children as soon as possible. no wonder we have the worst mental health crisis compared to other nations. In places like Finland the government gives every pregnant woman a free baby box with a mattress and some essentials. It’s mind’s boggling the way there is little to no support for parents and children here.

I didn't get a strong bonding time with my daughter right at birth... enrollment wanted to see her and i was so exhausted and didn't really realize how important that first few hours is for bonding.... her abs i have never had a close off a bond as me and my second.... it makes me sad sometimes that i think i missed something special with her (still love her to death, it's just a different bond!) I got that time with my son, partially because i was wiser to it and partially because he was born early during covid, so no one was around anyone! He is 3 now and still clingy af!!! I wouldn't change it for anything! I think those first few hours are crucial to help them build this natural bond, as well!

I call my son my Velcro baby, I don’t mean anything bad about it. I just mean that he would rather have me than anyone else 🤷🏻‍♀️ and it’s less of a Velcro baby than a Velcro Mommy situation 😂 I’m all for him being clingy I would rather have a happy stable relationship with baby than for him to be independent- that can come later

Yes, yes and Yes!! Peanut, can we please pin this post💯💯

I baby wore up until he was2 and what let me know he was done was the want for independence but he loved being carried family said I was spoiling him and friends said they wished they did baby wearing but it helped with milk flow getting things done it kept my posture in check and he loved his nap times in there … plan on baby wearing for the next baby as well

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