Co sleeping

Co sleep is unsafe if you don't take precautions. I co sleep half the night with my little one, I just make sure nothing is around her (pillows, blanket, toys, etc.). There are ways to do it safely

This is how our nights go. We have co-slept (breast sleeping) with both of our kids. I honestly don’t know how anyone manages to get sleep otherwise. If you want to keep co-sleeping, look up the ways to minimize the risks. I don’t have any idea on how to get them back in the bassinet 😂

@Mary may I ask you when/how you stopped co-sleeping with your older kids? I'm currently co sleeping because it's the only way I can catch some sleep, but I'm worried it will have no end..

Mom's bed is warm and nurturing. Like one mom stated, a crib or bassinet is cold and lonely. My baby is able to sleep half the night in her crib because I swaddle her, but because there is also risk with it, I sleep with a night light on. Some babies feel better swaddled as there is a sensation of containment and warmth

You can put a heating pad in the bassinet while feeding baby. Do you nurse to sleep? Sit up with the boppy and then your arms are already positioned properly to lift baby and move so less jostling while asleep. Then lean your entire body down into the bassinet keeping baby against your chest til they are securely on the now warm mattress. Butt down first, then head keeping your hand under head until last. Put the other hand firmly on their chest as you remove hand from their head and straighten up your body. This keeps them feeling secure and limits the startle reflex of being laid down. Swaddle or transition sack also helps a ton with feeling cozy in their own space. My kids both did well with the love to dream brand with their arms up by face but light compression. Also if they are getting too cold they wake more, but moving air is really good for preventing SIDS, so keep a fan on low and then wrap them in one extra layer than you need to be comfy.

Also, wait about 5 mins after they fall asleep to move them so they get into deeper sleep. If they stir, once in the bassinet, you can gently pat their belly or gently jiggle with a hand on belly to settle them.

@Mary lmaoo exactly!! I don’t know how to get sleep otherwise! My LO doesn’t want to stay in the bassinet or crib

Every day is so different & some days are so hard but we’re trying to get into a routine with the app huckleberry. So I swaddle, put on white noise & either let my baby sleep in my arms after breastfeeding or on a pillow on my lap. Then pick up baby as gently as possible 😅 put baby in bassinet legs first then head. I’ve now been trying to put baby in bassinet for naps while he’s half asleep so he can learn to fall asleep on his own. He’ll cry but I stand there with him bc I cannot just let him cry and massage his head and downwards on his nose bridge & give him his pacifier. And sometimes he knocks out in minutes. Sometimes I have to repeat.

Thank you everyone !!🤍

@AiraLi I’m struggling to remember the process. My daughter was (and is) a very light sleeper — I think eventually we got to the point where my husband would put her in bed so she could nurse, then he would put her back in her crib because she stopped being able to fall asleep when we were theoretically “available to play” 😂 . The good news is that I don’t know any adults that still sleep with their parents every night 🙃 so it works out eventually. I feel like the cosleeping cuddles are something I try to enjoy as long as that sleeping arrangement is working because they’re so sweet, and all too soon they’ll be too cool to cuddle. <<I’m not crying, you are 😭 >>

@Mary you are right! And I'm trying to soak up every second of it, it's just easy, natural, and feels like it is how is meant to be! But at the same time, you are always scared to screwing them up or create bad habits 😪.. motherhood in a nutshell! May I ask you how old your daughter was when you transitioned her?

My 8 week old is very very unsettled even when we cosleep second half of the night after his first wake of the night. He’ll stir and wake up and we have to continuously pat him and that is on a good night. If he too unsettled we will need to get him to sleep on one of us. Is that normal? I was hoping that cosleeping would be helpful to get longer stretchs but lol it doesn’t seem like it. He’s very restless at times and doesn’t go back to sleep after the first wake of the night. Need to rock him to sleep and after putting him on the bed he wakes up too if he’s not in a deep sleep. Any tips to help with that?

@Sayali my baby does the same after 5-6am! He just starts kicking and farting nonstop! I usually hold his legs up in a frog position, and that calms him down...sometimes I have to gently rock him a little bit...that seems to help passing gas without drama...but then I have to hold him like that🫠 Otherwise, I put him on his side, and that calms him down immediately! But if that doesn't work, I do a combo of the two! I usually can buy a couple of hours and we can get up at 8 or 9am instead of 6am! Sure... I'm cat napping, but better than nothing 🥴😅

@AiraLi I think she fully transitioned to only her bed when we started the weaning process around 2yo. We did a lot of sleep training starting at 9m because of our specific circumstances around work and care. I don’t recommend unless needed for life or sanity 😂 it took a loooong time for our very stubborn child 😂

@AiraLi oh my god the same issue with gas. I do the same with holding him in frog pose and aiding him to pass gas/poop and then he’s like I’m awake it’s active time haha so really hard to get him back to sleep.

@Sayali not sure if you’re breastfeeding, but what I do is side lying night feeds in bed — “breast sleeping”. He and I both fall back to sleep like this, and we flip throughout the night as needed. I also never change his diaper in the middle of the night unless he pees out of it 😂 (I have a good mattress protector lol)

@Mary oh I so wish I could do that. I’m breastfeeding as well but unfortunately my babe has reflux and we need to keep him upright for 30mins or so after each feed. I’m so hoping it gets better soon so we can do the side lying to sleep.

@Sayali I’m really sorry! That’s so stressful! I hope that improves soon

@Sayali oh boy... yep I'm always so scared to see those little eyes wide open looking at me!😅 Hopefully the gas should get better around 4 months... I really do hope for it! Either that, or he finally gains complete control of his head and learns how to roll so he finally can sleep with his tummy down! 🤷🏻‍♀️ I guess right in time for the sleep regression 😅🤦🏻‍♀️

@AiraLi what method of sleep training did you use?