Cheating during pregnancy

Does he seem like he wants to work on things and make things right? Otherwise there’s not really a point in staying

@Melanie he does. We both agreed to start therapy separate and then together if needed after. And he’s not big on therapy

In my experience cheaters don’t change. They just find ways to hide it better or they don’t even bother trying to hide it well because they know you’ll stay even if you find out.

I really think you should leave. If he can’t even respect you while you’re carrying his child how is he gonna respect you as a mother? You deserve better. Even if you don’t leave, don’t have more kids with him.

My husband has never cheated on me but if he did and it was a one time thing and he showed that he was regretful and willing to change, I’d stay. I’d make sure you have passwords to all of his phones/ computers etc. Make sure you guys make an effort to talk through how you feel. Starting therapy is a great step. Make time for one another to rebuild your relationship. I’d imagine it’s a very slow process and there’s a lot that can go wrong. But eventually you will have to forgive him and let it go otherwise he will never feel peace in your relationship again. But if he screws up again then he’s a goner babe

@Bianca I agree to not have more kids with him ^

If y’all both put in the effort it’ll work out. If not the relationship is doomed.

In my opinion don’t stay. you are most vulnerable when you are pregnant and he cheated on you. You are growing his child risking your health and putting your life on the line and he decided temporary pleasure was more important. Do not put up with this even if he says he’s sorry and he’s changed blah blah. Do not lower your boundaries and stand your ground

I'm going through this right now, I wanna work stuff out but its hard when all you see is what they did to you. But it is always possible to make things work you both have to be willing to do the work for it

Cheaters don't change he'll think ur accepting of it...I tried and stayed he kept cheating I finally packed up and moved into a new place 10months later with my son .skint alone but I done it and started a new life.you have to decide what's worth ur happiness x

It will always feel different now the trust has gone! If he can cheat on you whilst pregnant he will easily do it again when you’re not. I couldn’t put up with that.

@Sam agreed! I stayed with my ex after they cheated on me and they just kept doing it and I felt like a fool and just wished I left the first time. Even if they by some miracle don’t ever cheat again I could never trust them again. Who wants to be in a relationship where they are constantly worrying about the other person cheating when you could be with someone you don’t have to worry about ever or be alone and really not have to worry.