Emotional/Sexual disconnect from Partner
My fiancé and I found out we were expecting our first child together in March. We got engaged in May. Obviously, with pregnancy comes different hormonal changes. Before pregnancy, I was the one with a higher sex drive. Now that I’m pregnant I feel like our sexual chemistry is just fading more and more. I’m 6 months pregnant and we’ve probably had sex all of 10 times MAX since finding out I’m pregnant. He shows little to no signs of desiring sex/affection. We probably kiss eachother every few days. I just feel like the overall intimacy is at an all time low. I’ve brought this up before, he has said that I’m not “all that affectionate either” he’ll start being more intentional about affection then with time it reverts back. For the past month or so, he’s been getting up in the middle of the night and sleeping in another room because I’ve been having nose congestion and it causes me to snore in my sleep. At first, I was understanding but now I’m just getting annoyed to waking up in separate rooms. It’s starting to seem a little extreme.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been a little more to myself throughout this pregnancy journey and a lot of times I’m tired or dont even feel motivated to initiate sex nor do I feel turned on. So I’m not doing much effort on my end either but part of it is because I did it so much before I got pregnant so now I’m just really letting things be whatever. I’m also feeling more self conscious since being pregnant & the weight gain (especially in my boobs) so idk it throws me off bc I’ve never weighed more than 120 pounds now my boobs are sagging & im 155 pounds. He barely compliments me anymore. I’m just annoyed
Sidebar: he is a great man & he does take the lead in most things especially since being pregnant. So no issues there.
But With the engagement, I figured we should be growing closer and closer in all aspects not the opposite. Sometimes, it makes me not even feel excited about getting married. Idk if I’m being extreme or what but it’s not a good feeling.
I feel like this is completely normal. I have had this conversation several times with my partner. I’ve felt disconnected, but after speaking to him he was feeling that way from me (I’ve been getting up and sleeping in spare room because of his snoring, too tired to be intimate etc.) as well as just working different hours and general life in the way it’s hard. I think the best thing you can do is communicate and just let each other know how you’re feeling from day to day. I know we’re going through it physically but I’ve read up on a few articles about partners throughout pregnancy and they do feel it too! It’s temporary, I understand it’s frustrating but we’ve been making a conscious effort to have a date night once a week and it’s helping xx