Sharing info about donor
Sometimes I wish I had just told everyone I got pregnant by a one night stand. I’m 7 months pregnant and I get so many questions about the donor and to see pictures of him. I have made the decision not to share much about his race, background, or photos. One to respect his privacy but more importantly (for me) to keep the idea that he is not the baby’s “Dad”. I am trying to have him be an afterthought. A means to this wonderful blessing. I’ve have family members get upset with me and my aunt hasn’t spoken to me in 6 months. Did anyone else have this experience? How did you handle it?
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Ya this seems to raise so much judgement from the wider circle so also considering where to be open about it or not irl
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I feel you. I’m quite lucky in that my circle is small and my close family are supportive. I’m 17 weeks right now. And you’re right, many people would find it easier to process a one night stand than a donor - which is mad, really - isn’t it? Were it a lesbian couple 🏳️🌈 I don’t think they’d have the same negative reaction that can come along with single, straight woman 🇬🇧🇪🇺. I’ve had people, especially women, my own age or younger not understanding it. I’ve had some women with kids say, ‘Why don’t you stay as you are, your life is so good.’ Ironically, for me, older women who have gone through divorce and life are more sympathetic but there are always the conventionalists, aren’t there? I am going to avoid using the words, ‘sperm donor’ and rather use the phrase 'single mother by choice.' Let them figure it out. I think if people pry too much, I'll shut down the conversation as politely as possible. People are still getting use to ths idea of SMBC -you are not alone. ☺️🙌🏻