Has anyone felt this lonely after motherhood ?

I finally feel almost my whole self again but now I feel very lonely… after my postpartum anxiety and depression now I want to get out there and fun and go out but I realized I don’t have friends anymore … I lost all my friends the one I was really close to she moved to another state so now I have no one …. Idk why to do because now I’m all alone I call my mom to talk to her but there is only so much I can tell my mom you know I don’t have a car during the day only at night so I can’t really go out and meet new friends I’m a 26 year old mom and have 2 under 2 and now I’m feeling down because of this I want adult interaction so bad…. But I catch myself being kinda miserable because at times when I do have conversations it’s literally always about bad stuff never the good I’m not like this about myself I want to change I don’t want to be known as Debbie the downer ….
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What types of bad things are you talking about? Are they things you can change? I totally can relate about no friends after motherhood.

Hi! I’m totally in the same boat as you right now, 26 years old, I got PPD and PPA too, I lost my whole self and I’m still trying to collect myself a little bit, but now that I’m ready there’s absolutely no one. It doesn’t help that my entire family has a huge social life and go out and so stuff all the time and has a lot of people, but I was planning my daughter first birthday party and there was no one to invite besides my parents and sisters and her godparents. Even though we went for vacation to a place where I used to have a lot of friends I went out with them a lot of times and still felt alienated (not because of them) and lonely. I felt like i didn’t belong anymore and all I wanted to do was to go back home. It’s stressful and honestly really depressing. No one talks about how lonely motherhood is. I have no advice, but just wanted to let you know that yes, anyone else is feeling that lonely too❤️

@Kayla I think I’m starting to be a negative person like of course I don’t shit talk just bring up bad things which I’m trying my best not to be

@Laura I also sadly notice that I didn’t have real friends because if I knew someone was feeling the way I feel I would try to make them happy take them out you know …. And I don’t have that in fact a know someone I’ve tried to go out and it feels like I’m the last in her list so if no one is available she tried to hang out with me which is actually sad and my bf told me to just cut her off kinda hard to cut someone off that is barely there but I have no one but my mom at the moment and family gatherings that’s it ….

I wish I at least had a car to do things and go to groups or something and meet more ppl so I’m stuck at home with the ppl I only know but are fake I actually felt embarrassed yesterday I slide up on a story of an old friend was putting up decorations and I said “ nice I thought I was the only one already decorating “to make conversation she just left me on read she’s a mom too …. I felt very pathetic because I also know she’s not a nice person so I’m just like ima stop trying focus on my kids and my time will come to hopefully meet good ppl because I know I’m lonely but I also shouldn’t just be too desperate and bring someone that isn’t very nice into my life and kids

I know! I lost most of my “friends” through my pregnancy. Cause I wasn’t able to keep up with the partying and drinking and all that stuff. It’s very very sad, and frustrating. I only have family basically. The worst part is not knowing how to meet people that is at the same stage as us, that would understand what we are going through and that would stick with us. It’s hard, but you are definitely not the only one. ❤️‍🩹

@Laura thank you !! Yea it’s hard definitely feel like that hopefully it’ll change once my babies get older I think right now I’m just gonna keep my head up and enjoy my babies right now that they are small

Where you at? I too have no friends 😪

@Winnona Texas

Me too! Fortworth area?

Richmond/ Rosenberg

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