Velcro baby
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People will always try and blame the parent for certain “behaviors”. You did nothing wrong, that’s just his little personality! I agree with @Jess try a pacifier! Worked great for mine, and he’s a very physical baby with affection and comfort 💜
Idk if this will help you but that is my son. He wanted to be held constantly and never could be set down alone. Eventually I just stopped trying to leave him alone. I got on the mat and just sat there and my presence alone was enough. Now he’s able to stay in the playpen by himself. He doesn’t want me to put him to bed anymore. He’s 11 months old and all I really did was provide that emotional support to him by just being there and he gradually started feeling more comfortable on his own. It’ll get better with time and I definitely know it can be hard. If you ever need someone to talk to I’m here or reach out to a partner, friend whoever and talk about things. It really does help. Sending love and positive vibes your way 💙
My LO has been a Velcro baby from birth, he hit 3 months and now only sometimes contact naps but prefers his moses basket which has been a godsend (I say this but it’s only been 4 days 🤣) so I feel your pain just wanting to be able to unload the dishwasher or put a load of washing on, it’s hard!! We use a dummy, we have been putting him down and then picking back up within a few minutes whilst he’s awake and stayed with him, played etc so he knows it’s a safe place and slowly built it up. I also started putting him down in it just as he was falling asleep, so he was almost asleep but not quite - persistence helped so if he woke, I’d pick him back up and try settle again - could take half an hour again! We play music at night time on Spotify but I generally just have the telle on in the background during the day. I hope you find something that works for you soon!
I don't always think it's the parents fault! My son is 3 months, up until now he's always been happy to be put down etc but recently every time he's put down he cries after about 5 mins! If his brother holds him as well he'll cry until he comes back to me. I dont know if it's just a phase? He doesn't like dummies either 🙃
My son is a Velcro baby. I couldn't drop him down. Not even for a second for the first 2 months. Now he is crawling and is still contact napping and very clingy. That's ok. A baby needs his mom and dad.
4 months old wanting to be held is not really a velcro baby, that’s just a baby! General rule of thumb some wonderful elders taught to me is 9 months being in, 9months wanting to be on, 9months wanting to be near. 🫶🏼
Will he take a pacifier? I was pretty against them at first but my LB uses one to settle and relax sometimes