Frustrated and feeling rejected

I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant and VERY sexually frustrated. Me and my partner of 4 years have not been intimate since we found out we were pregnant at 3 weeks!! We have always been in a long distance relationship so time spent together almost always included sexual relations. Since 16 weeks my libido has increased significantly and I have become more and more frustrated with his abstinence. I have spoken to him many times about how I feel and he just says he has no sex drive at the moment, until recently he didn’t even want to show me other forms of affection like cuddling and kissing. Everytime I bring the topic up his responses / attitude towards me makes me feel desperate and needy. The other day we finally had some affectionate moments - kissing and holding eachother etc. it started to progress ( passionate kisses) he then stopped said “put your horny away” and rolled over and went to sleep. We could of just kissed for y night and I would of been fine with that,I was so happy to even be held by him, when he turned over I was hurt and literally cried myself to sleep. Prior to conceiving he was a very affectionate person and even felt like I wasn’t sexual enough e.g. he wanted me to send him more pics and always wanted sex. Which I accommodated for as I wanted him to be happy in our relationship. We’ve had infidelity issues in the past most recently 2/3 weeks before we fell pregnant (he was having phone sex with some random girl from instagram) I mention this to illustrate the extent of how horny he was before! I can’t help thinking he’s no longer attracted to me or doesn’t want to be with me, he says this isn’t the case and his low sex drive isnt anything because of me but I can’t wrap my head around how he’s changed so drastically. I desperately want to be intimate with him and have cried about this on many occasions (to myself and to him). We haven’t been able to see each other much or talk as much as we used to since being pregnant as he’s always working til crazy hours, even when we are together he’s on his phone doing work stuff. I worry for the future of our relationship and live in paranoia that he’s talking to or seeing other girls as in my mind this is the only thing that explains it all. Am I overthinking things? What do I do ??

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Yeah he sounds like he's up to something, probably getting himself off to what's he's found on the phone

He’s definitely giving off Red Flags!!!!!!!!!

He gets you pregnant, then he no longer wants to have sex, he’s working late, doesn’t see you as often, no affection, not talking as much, on his phone more, kisses you but stops before it gets to sex, and legit just rolls over and lets you cry yourself to sleep. I’m so sorry but he cheated before I believe he’s cheating again. This is just way too many red flags for me.

It’s not uncommon for men to not want to have sex while their gf is pregnant. I’m on multiple fb mom groups and there’s always women complaining about their husband not wanting to “hurt the baby” or it just making them uncomfortable to think about. However him not wanting to comfort you or give you reassurance isn’t normal… definitely talk with him and explain that you need that extra love right now because you feel alone and not wanted & you’re only pregnant for so long. He’s ether going to care enough or not.. & if he doesn’t then I’d definitely think about your future because pregnancy def doesn’t reveal a lot about a relationship and a baby def makes it even more complicated/harder.

Men lie a lot too, its saddest thing. They say they are still attracted and live you, but they don't touch you.. they aren't honest. It's cute to some guys, but that aren't sexual attracted if you hit belly.. or you gained too much, and they never tell you.. Men are great at ignoring, avoiding, and being passive-aggressive. It akawi drastic change, they liked the fantasy of gf and not the responsibility of baby with woman/ gf etc Ps so sorry.....I know the feeling, especially pregnancy or post Partum, dad sad sad... he's so bad

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