Performance Anxiety?

We're ttc baby #2, and I feel like my husband has performance anxiety during sex. Our first was not a complete accident, but we weren't trying. He has no problem getting started, but there have been numerous times he hasn't been able to finish, mostly when we think I'm ovulating (still don't have a normal cycle, so we're using ovulation tests). Does anyone else have experience with this? What have you done to make it better? I'm getting so frustrated because it's been 3 months of trying, and it just seems like he has no problems finishing any other time of the month!
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I’ve never had this personally but maybe try to keep it to yourself that you’re ovulating? Maybe if he didn’t know it would happen easier

It sounds like he feels a lot of pressure. I agree with just keeping ovulation timing to yourself and just let intimacy be all fun and no business

My husband did some when we were trying for our 6 year old. I was using ovulation test. I had actually had two losses before I got pregnant with her. I found that when he knew I was ovulating he had a harder time performing like he got too in his head about it. Even when we were trying for our last baby as well. I found that not telling him I was ovulating and not giving as much pressure to perform that he was able to finish. I think they get in their heads about it and that makes things hard for them. Try testing without him knowing results. Start initiating sex during the time you have a positive ovulation test and also when you don't so that he doesn't know and have that. With taking the test you should see a pattern on how many days after your first day of your cycle that you ovulate. Like for myself it was usually cycle day 9 or 10. ..... Continue.....

.... Continue.... Say you ovulate around cycle day 14 (average day) on cycle days 9, 11, 13, and 14 are the best days to have sex. Also it's best to have at least one or two days between to allow sperm numbers to increase. If you have sex everyday the sperm count each time will not be as high. I'm not sure how active your normal sex life is without trying so try to adjust to be similar to your normal sex life just adjust to try and fall during those ovulation times. Also pay attention to your discharge it will help you determine when you ovulate as well. Best of luck. Hopefully this helps some.

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