You can tell

I would say you can tell by their involvement or behaviors if they have traumas or made bad life decisions as well 🤷🏼‍♀️

From personal experience I'd agree with this. The grandparents in my child's life make it abundantly clear whether or not they ever wanted to be responsible for a child in the first place.

@Melissa it makes me so sad for my daughter. And so incredibly annoyed at my MIL.

If they are indeed not in the right mental space as an adult which it sounds like they’re not, you don’t want them around your child anyhow sadly 🫶🏼 Hugs to you guys

Feel this. My mother is good with only seeing my daughter only 1 or 2 times a year. My dad wants to be here every day. I always knew about my mum, but this solidifies it

I see this too. The stark difference between my mum and the rest of our family. It's always been tough love from her and she'll complain but a year in she's only bothered to see her grandson once 🙃

I think also when they get older they seem to suddenly want their lives to just be them again, all about them and be more selfish and can't be bothered with little Ones as they don't have the energy for them and they may be sick to their own children's presence but still love their grand children

I disagree, but that's just from My experience. My mom is a much better and more involved grandmother than she was as my mother

@Raqi that's really nice for you. My parents are better with grandchildren than their own for sure but not all time they have their own lives