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Apparently there's men campaigning against circumcision these days. Come across it by chance😅 Maybe worth a Google visit😶🌫️ I dislike this whole attitude that your husband has regarding 'differences'. Its very discriminating to state that being different is a problem🤔 Just a thought!
Honestly …. I just had my first boy and his father gave me his opnion on it as my partner in this situation (and life) BUT he also told me that considering the babies are an extension of my physical body, the decisions should be left up to me. This involved circumcision, vaccination, and other topics of that nature.
@Kelli it’ll be 2u2 so definitely young enough to bathe together and my older has sensitive skin and get “diaper free time” where he gets to run around naked for 10-20 minutes after bath every night so it can dry and not get a rash.
@Sarah🦄 Well it’s more he’s cut, my oldest is, so he doesn’t want them to see it and feel different. They’re already half siblings and he’s worried one or the other will feel out of place. Not that he thinks they will be. We’re fighting with oldests bio dad so it’s already a lot for my oldest.
I wouldn't necessarily think that being half siblings will make them feel different. My daughter and her half brother don't think anything of it being half siblings. They don't live together anymore since her bio-dad gave up rights to her and he divorced the half brother's mom but that doesn't change how they feel about each other. But as for feeling different about their penises looking different, I think you're going to need to find someone who has experience as a male and how they felt.
This is clearly your husbands insecurity & not your baby boys insecurity. Why is being different such a 'bad' thing? The only way your child is going to be 'insecure' about his body is if a seed is planted in their mind. Which isn't going to happen if we don't start to normalise, differences. Not to mention every boy, man was born with a foreskin. That is how nature intended it to be🤷🏼♀️
Both are for me. I would just say weigh out the pros and cons with your husband. And when in doubt, ask if he'd be willing to sit through the whole circumcision if that's a choice he'd want to make. I maintain I wouldn't do anything to my child that I couldn't sit in the room and be there for him. But we were also never on the fence about this topic
@Sarah🦄 how is his genuine concern his insecurity? 😂 it’s not a bad thing, the seed can be planted from school, from other kids, from a sibling, you can’t put a kid in a bubble and make sure they never get bullied or hurt. That’s not feasible. Kids get bullied for not being cut all the time, it’s a valid concern? We’re also born with tonsils, wisdom teeth, and appendix’s because nature intended it and they do genuinely cause health issues and regularly get removed.
Key point that you just made; - Things are done for 'health issues'. The concern here is to do with vanity & not health. If people are worried about looking 'different' that's a vanity thing & not a health thing {unless maybe they've had a serious accident or illness that has caused them to look different in some way}. I mean, on a serious note you're stating that this is a concern over a penis. No one is going to be looking at it & no one is going to see it. Yes your husband is clearly insecure, why else would he be coming out with 'reasons' to have your perfect little boys body changed. Just because, he 'looks' different from him & his brother? This isn't a deformity. Lets change it to your baby being born with a deformity. Would you be wanting to change their body because, they don't look like anyone else? Or, would you love them just as they are & accept that yes, they do look different from everyone else but, choosing to embrace that difference & teach your child to do the same?
I’ve come across it several times where a male has to get circumcised in adulthood because of it either not being able to pull back fully or at all in extreme cases. It’s usually standard medical practice to do a circumcision for these reasons since it is much more painful to do so as an adult than as a child/baby. They won’t remember the pain caused by it as a baby and will heal much easier in almost every scenario compared to the same procedure as an adult. Ever man I’ve heard have to go through this as an adult have all wished their parents just circumcised them at birth and it would’ve avoided many years of discomfort and pain
My stepson & my bio son are both uncircumcised like their father, idk if it's the age difference, but it has never come up between the kids🤷♀️ I don't know if one of yours being uncircumcised while the other is not, will ever be an issue for them. I honestly don't see why it should be.
My ex was uncut and if I remember correctly his two older brothers were. I don't recall him ever commenting on feeling different or having an issue with being different from his brothers. If they aren't going to be naked around each other, such as both being young enough to bathe together, I don't see how they would know one is cut and the other isn't.