Feelings

How old is the baby? Also man can have significant hormonal changes after Bub arrives. I work definitely would seek medical advice…

It sounds like he's overwhelmed and can't handle the pressure. Numbing out is a reaction. He can still love and feel, but he's flooded with thoughts/feelings/emotions right now. As you know, the first year with a baby is a lot... Hold his hand and tell him you want to know what he's worried about so he doesn't have to face it all alone. Ask him to tell you just one thing, and just listen & validate his feelings. He may feel like he's failing you and your child in some way. Once he sees you are safe for sharing, he can open up more. He can get back to something that feels more normal, but he's going to need a little support. See if he'll do therapy together or on his own.

@Gloria she just turned a year old.

@Bonny I’ve asked him to talk to me and tell me what’s going on and he tells me to stop/shut up and then gets aggressive/sarcastic with things like “are you a shrink? Ok dr Phil. Stop playing a victim etc” He’s all over the place emotionally. I just don’t know who to talk to about it. He’ll blow up and then hours later act like nothing happened and then wonder why I’m being bitchy or don’t instigate imitate time. Like the things you said earlier hurt my feelings… and I just have no one to talk to.

If that’s how he reacts I would not push him to talk to you directly at this point, sometimes the people closest to us are those it’s the hardest to talk to. But be firm, “you’re right, I’m not a shrink, I’m no professional so it’s ok if you don’t feel like talking to me, but there is no need to be a professional to know that the way you feel, or in this case DON’T feel is a bad sign, something is going on and it’s affecting everyone, so something needs to be done, you need to talk to someone who can help. I am here to support you, but that’s all I can do, you are the only one who can do the work and your family needs it you to do it”

In what way is he narcissistic? X

"I don't need a psych textbook to know a classic defense mechanism when I see one. If you're ready to stop being rude to me, I'm ready to hear about what's really bothering you." His lashing out isn't about you, but it doesn't make it right. You deserve love, and I hope he can get through whatever is going on and come back to you for the sake of your family. ❤️