Need to find the courage to break up with my baby father before I go completely insane and despite many many good reasons including cheating on me I’m still with him.I feel so hopeless, I’m loosing the will to live, I cry my eyes out

Mumma! Never talk badly about yourself. Ending a relationship is really hard, especially when you love them & even more so when you had a child with them! But maybe try to do it FOR your LO. It'll take some time, but you'll eventually feel better in general as well as, about yourself. Take a deep breath, pack your stuff & go stay with someone until you can get your own place. That or, if it's your house, pack his stuff and ask him to leave (maybe have someone with you when you do that) you can do this mumma

I always find excuses for not doing that, I know 100% is the right thing to do I just can’t. I pray god he will leave me it’s the only way out I can see

And yes I am useless, which other woman would keep a man who cheated and had another kid while together?

You are not the only one. There are many who forgive and still continue that things will be better. It's 50/50. Do speak to someone.

You are not useless at all, unfortunately men like this have ways of making you believe you are. Take a deep breath and think of were you will be one month, two months and a year down the line - such a massive weight will be lifted off your shoulders and you will be happy. You are worth so much more than being treated like this. Not only that you can teach your little one how a woman should be treated. Think of a place you feel comfortable to break the news - if thats in the car, phone or letter. He will only be the one living with regret for what he has lost x

Thank you ladies

@Angela I tried counselling but not benefit from that either

I have 4 half siblings. All born whilst my mum was still married to my dad. My mum stayed and was miserable the rest of their marriage. Once she left and her adult kids knew the man their father was she began to open up, as a mother and grandmother she became softer. Don’t beat yourself up for choosing your child and putting everyone else’s needs before your own! If you ask me, that makes you Amazing! Just don’t sacrifice yourself for this. He made the mistakes, not you. Do not stay in a relationship that genuinely makes you unhappy. Love does not cause physical or mental and emotional stress.

Do what’s best for you babe, in the long run it’s gonna to beat you down if you don’t stay true to yourself. Remember you have that LO looking up and seeing everything you do. Teach them happiness and respect and it starts by giving that to yourself x

@Michelle thanks Michelle, I feel I’m a bit like your mum. I stay for the love of my child. I really appreciate women who finally get themself out , I don’t even know where to start.