Feeling lost

I’m feeling the same mama, don’t think your alone because your not

@Claire thank you, it’s crazy how you can feel so alone even though you have support around you.

I’m feeling very lost in myself too, I 100% know what you mean. During pregnancy I knew how much my life will change but now I’m not sure if i was actually ready for the change…. Obvs it’s too late now but the more I think about it I can’t shake the feeling of thinking I wasn’t actually ready to me a mum and I miss the freedom I had Of course I love my little one to pieces just some days are hard to not miss the days before he was here

You're not alone. Infact i dont know if NOT feeling this way is normal, if that makes sense. With my first, it took exactly 9 months for me to feel like myself again, fit into my old clothes, and wanna be more than just a mom. Then BAM, got pregnant with baby #2 right when my first was 9 months. I am now 6 weeks pp and because i already know that this feeling WILL pass. That i will bounce back on my own time and when my body is ready. I am much more at ease and definitely not feeling as anxious and guilty and like an imposter in my own body like i was with my first pregnancy and birth. No, you wont let yourself go. But you need TIME. The first 4 to 5 months pp are for you to keep your baby alive, and nurture and love and connect with him/her. Which is exactly what you're doing. Give yourself some love and some grace 🫶

I feel a little like this too 😞 I’m nearly 8 weeks pp, I never feel good enough for my little boy and I feel so so guilty saying it because I love him with all my heart and so greatful and lucky to have him. I don’t like what has happened to me I don’t know who I am anymore and I agree with feeling like a shock from my old life and struggling with the huge change (even though I was ready for this) I’m still finding it so so hard to adjust to. I really wish I wasn’t as I love my baby so much, how do you stop being in your own head all the time over everything, I can’t even sleep when my baby does and like now he’s fast asleep I’m just sat awake with my head going round feeling guilty that I wish I was much better for him. I don’t understand how this ever passes it feels like my mind is always going to be like this now, it’s exhausting

You are not alone... For me was very positiveget off the pijama and put comfy clothe every day. I trying use the pijama only for sleep time. And sometimes I use makeup (even if I gonna stay in home), so when I see me in the mirror, I see a little of girl that I used to be... But is very hard. Talk to yourself with love. You are amazing

Totally relate to you all x

This was me with my first baby, this second time around I am not quite as lost yet because I already went through it. But my body has changed again and I don’t recognise it at all. I’m also really sore in my hips etc still so I feel your pain there.

hey mama, like everyone has said above you are certainly not alone. i’m 5 weeks postpartum and i still have days where i struggle with my body, and don’t give myself enough grace for someone that’s just given birth. i’m still looking very pregnant at 5 weeks postpartum, but i try to remind myself that it’s just far too soon to expect any different. what i will say is, you’re still very early postpartum, 6 weeks!! for a lot of women, it takes 9 months to a year to get back in the groove physically, externally and internally. i avoided breastfeeding this time around, i knew how much it would affect me mentally, emotionally & physically, i had to drown out the social pressure of breastfeeding and prioritise my health, because happy mama = happy baby. would pumping milk and bottle feeding be an option for you? so you could feel less physically held up & also get support if present with feeding. just remember at the end of the day, fed is best. it won’t be like this forever ❤️

@Kayley this sounds like postpartum depression/anxiety and i would contact your maternity unit or GP (or both) for some support. ❤️