Only child vs. multiple children

We have three and it is difficult it was difficult with two as well. But at least with two you wouldn't be outnumbered. I love my kids but it's really not easy lol I think if you're in any way feeling like it's a no go then you should stick with what you have. Frankly it's nobody's business if you decide to have another one or not so I wouldn't let their asking you influence your decision.

I am right there with you on this...one day it seems like a good idea and the next I'm like 1 is enough...ugh it's exhausting. I just need to make the decision one way or another 🙃

They're asking because misery loves company 🤣 jk (?) But seriously, they probably wanted a small age gap and had back to back kids.. Terrible move. I think a great age gap is ~4/5yrs. Your oldest is becoming more independent and beginning to attend school and you can focus that alone time on a new baby and actually enjoy it and bond like you did with your first.

I honestly think that if you don’t feel the urge to have another — don’t do it. If you’re fine with just the one, I’d let it be. More kids is definitely more work. I have two and only did that because we definitely wanted another one and didn’t feel complete without it. (Now we have 1 boy & 1 girl = we’re DONE 😂)!

@Heather I am 5 yrs older than my brother and my mom always says it was a great age gap! I was old enough to entertain my little brother for my mom while she cooked dinner, I was already going to school when he was born, so my mom got all that one-on-one time with him just like she did for me (and didn’t have to deal with two kids home at once). Never had to deal with two opposing nap schedules, nothing. I was able to babysit him when I was like 13+ (and he was 8 or so), so my parents could go about their business or have date nights etc. Only down side was that we weren’t as close as some siblings are until we got older (when I was in my late teens or 20s and he was in high school) because we never went to the same school together, had different friend groups, were into different things at different times (ex: at theme parks I’d be doing the older kid stuff while he was doing the “baby rides”) etc.

On the flip side, I have 2 and they’re 13 mos apart (it wasn’t planned like that though—would have waited longer if planned!)! It’s definitely a lot of work, but I also love seeing them together. They love playing together and help entertain each other. Do they fight? Sure, sometimes. The fighting is definitely not the majority of the time though. If I had to do it all over again, i honestly am not sure if I’d keep this age gap or wait until my older one was 5 or so….there are definitely some advantages of having them as close together as I did. I can’t imagine having them like 2 or 3 years apart though (even though that’s probably the most common age difference). But IMO 2 and 3 yr olds are going through that “terrible 2s & threenager” phase where I can’t imagine having a newborn during those times. Also, it would suck to have just finished all the baby things and then have to restart all over. At least with a 4-5yr age gap you get a little break.