Postpartum rage / resentment
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I think it’s normal to feel this way, especially if you don’t have a lot of support to lean on. Take breaks where you can, scream into a pillow (I taught this to both my toddlers and they love it haha) just do what you need to, so that you can release some of that pent up energy. Remember you are on the same team. Focus on yourself where you can. Also just a heads up, 6 months was when I started feeling like I could breath again🥹
It’s normal and postpartum rage isn’t talked about enough. I had my daughter almost 5 years ago and I never got back to “normal”. But I will say at some point I reached out to a therapist and psychiatrist. I’m so happy now but that’s because of the work I put in. I think my only advice is to just breathe. And if you need to speak to someone please do it.
My rage stemmed from the fact that I had different expectations of him once he became a father. I was honest with him about what I needed from him now that our life has done a drastic change, and it really helped with me feeling like he “wasn’t doing enough” The good thing is that he actually wants the same things that I wanted, but we were so used to operating a certain way because we were okay / happy with that before baby. Hopefully that resonates
Why do we have to have the conversation to ask for help though? Can't they see in front of their eyes when we are tired, in pain, struggling etc and just give help?
I had that for a little bit. It can go away. We had to have a lot of hard conversations. Remember this is new for both of you. With us, my husband just didn't know how to help. I had a tough time just being on my own when he went back to work and I would let little things bother me, like to rage. We talked about how we're a team and he wasn't doing things to bother me, but that he was overwhelmed too. Open up a dialogue, let him know how you feel, even if you just need him to listen, let him know that. And keep moving! I would sit in bed and cry with the baby, which made me feel worse. But get up, walk around, go outside, watch your thoughts.