Break up

My partner and I have been through a toxic relationship. Even before we got together he was very hot and cold with me. I bent over backwards to help him after he crashed his car and found out on our second date that he had a baby due but wasn't with the mother as she left him after a few months. Fast forward a year after falling pregnant too soon we've had a bad relationship throughout. I've stayed through accusations of cheating, being called horrible things when arguing, told to have abortion...everything and I still stupidly stayed after being promised it would changed. A year later, our baby is now 3 months old and we've been through couples therapy and the therapist has focused on him in every session which shows me that how I have acted and been is not my fault. In a private session with her she even said if I told someone going through the same to break up then that's my own advice on what I should do. Most of my friends I've lost contact with or no longer have things in common now I'm a mum. My only family is my nan who is too old to look after my baby. I'm feeling completely alone and I've just broken things off after seeing he's been sending memes about cheating to a girl a few months before I was giving birth. I've also found him liking single girl babies and chats with girls while he was with me at the start. I don't know how I'm going to navigate parenthood on my own. I wanted a complete family because I didn't have one growing up and I wanted the best for our baby. I'm now seeing it's time for me to call it, which I did last night. I just don't know how things are going to be with no support. He barely helped with the baby, but it's just knowing I'm even more on my own with a house that's still not fully complete. Please tell me it gets better and things will be OK 😔
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It will get better eventually over time your pain and heartbreak will turn into disgust as you see more and more who he truly is, try to get acclimated with a local church if possible they will be an immense help and if you can get into services for your baby to be in childcare and for yourself to get a job it will all eventually come together, i left my ex husband almost two years ago and it was really rough at first but i finally have my own car, and apartment and time with my kids he isn’t tied to and it feels so great, things for him have just continued to get worse while i’ve been gone

My post should read single girls pictures 🙃 been a long night/day already 🙄 Currently I feel numb. The times before I've cried when I've tried to break it off but this time I've not cried once. I just feel like I can't take it anymore. I just don't know how to get through being a single mum as I never wanted that 😔

don’t keep putting yourself through this, also think about the environment that you are raising your baby in. your baby needs a happy mum and a good home which doesn’t have to mean two parents, single parent households are happy places too and the longer you stay in a bad situation is the less time you have in your new happy one. all the best girl and you can message me if you ever need to speak. single motherhood can be hard at times but you’ve got this!

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