Intimacy after a baby: Need help/ Advice

Be patient with yourself there’s a lot going on. It’s rough but you’ve got this

@Mia the only thing is after we had the baby (up to the 2 month mark) I was okay and would even initiate things but now it’s completely the opposite xx

I had the same problem. I don’t know if it’s because I had started birth control or what but I still haven’t gotten my sex drive back and now i’m pregnant again 💀💀💀 lol but I’ve had different sex drives at different times the past 16 months and a lot having to do with the stress of just being a mom

I’m back on the same birth control that I was on prior to coming off to get pregnant so it could just be new mum hormones xx

It could be- you give so much of yourself all day everyday, mentally, physically, literally everything you give to your baby then when your husband comes home he ends up being your back board and you can kind of just shut down around him because you know he is a safe space. I found I was doing this for a bit too but once you understand why you are you can notice it and make an effort to not. It will get better 🫶

i went through the same thing. it was tough but time has helped! it’s probably not what you want to hear but it took almost a year to feel more “back to normal” consistently. communicate your feelings with him, make some quality time for each other without it being physical. give yourself grace , it’s such a huge adjustment welcoming your new baby!

Totally normal!! Maybe it’s an evolutionary thing - wouldn’t make sense to get right back to babymaking 😂. Plus your body needs to heal!! I’m 6mo pp and I think I’ve only had sex 3 times and the first time was maybe 4m pp.

@Rhiannon I’m currently 3 months pp and have only done it twice or so but me and my partner used to be quite intimate a lot (even cuddles) and now nothing (on my side) I just want to sort it and figure out why and how to

I honestly think that’s okay ❤️ plenty of time to be intimate. Definitely agree with others, if you can get in some date night time definitely do that!

3 months PP here and I’m tired. I’ve now slowly started to feel like myself and I sometimes wanna get down but I’m just tried at the end of the day. I have to be up At 6 am and he gets up at 5am for work. We’ve done it like 4 times since I’ve had my baby. We have scheduled for this Friday 🤣hopefully I don’t fall asleep. FYI we’ve been together for 15 years.

So I am not an overly affectionate person thanks to past trauma. However, I could’ve written this myself. I found out that I have extremely low testosterone levels since having our twins. So that plus postpartum anxiety it took a while before things got back to normal. I also had a lot of time to think about what may or may not have been lacking in our relationship and we started to work through it. We actually used the app called Paired which the free version is different questions everyday you both answer and it was eye opening and has brought us closer together. You have just gone through a major change give yourself some grace and time!