Struggling with loss of identity.

I had a baby 18 months ago, and since then, I've really been struggling with the feeling of losing my identity. For some ridiculous reason, I feel like I have to change everything about myself in order to be a good mom. Why do I feel the need to do that? I feel like I used to be so cool, I have tattoos. I used to have piercings. I used to listen to heavy metal music. Now I cover myself up, take out all my piercings, and only listen to kid friendly music. And I actually really hate this. My self-image also deteriorated due to weight gain. I just feel so stuck and so incredibly depressed and I don't know what to do. Any advice?

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I have struggled with this too, my heart goes out to you and my best advice is do whatever you can to feel like YOU whenever you can. Jam out to music YOU like when you’re in the car. Book that next tattoo appointment, take him with you to do things YOU enjoy! Leave him with someone you trust and go to the gym or get some weights and an at home bike machine (very cheap on facebook marketplace) and do that when he naps! Slowly but surely you will feel like YOU again.. sending love you got this 🫶🏼❤️

Hey I am totally feeling this too. I figured it would just improve on its own but I’m finding that I will have to put in some work into finding myself again. I started talking to a therapist and she said it’s good to take some notes of what you want and then make small changes. I don’t want to be afraid of being the bad ass looking mom, I want to own that! Seems like maybe it’s time to step into your power and take a little time for yourself. Even 15 minutes here and there when you can. Putting my jewelry back in helps me feel more like myself 😊

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