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@Mia what do you mean when you day your parents intentionally made you an only child?
@Becky like they were one and done
@Mia oh I see, you can hardly blame them for that though some couples only want the one child and that's fine, it's a shame that you resent your parents for that. Maybe they found parenting difficult. There could be plenty of reasons have you ever asked them?
I didn’t enjoy it. I always wanted siblings. Then when I was 12, my parents had remarried and had 2 more kids each. Kinda too late for me but at least I have those siblings now that are in their early 20s
@Mia This is a bit ridiculous to me to resent your parents for having one child. What if someone medically couldn’t have more than one child? Or what if some parents couldn’t afford more than one, so out of consideration for their child they didn’t bring more children in the world they couldn’t take care of. Also, it’s very naive to think that just because someone is family that they will be there “forever” As someone who grew up with siblings they can be your biggest bully and absolutely cruel. Maybe give your parents some grace.
My fiance is an only child and he's hell bent on our son being an only child too I don't like that he has that power
@Felicia I mentioned in the comments for no one to come after me, especially given that you don’t know the whole story, I know the reasons and they did it out of selfishness. Not saying everyone does it out of selfishness, but I know my situation, you don’t know mine. My parents don’t deserve grace but thank u for giving me the what’s ifs, that come from a total different world then mine 😅 I haven’t talked to my parents for years, and don’t plan on it, for millions of reasons, and yes, me growing up an only child with them was the start of soooo many issues that arose as I got older. Not saying this is the case for everyone, I was giving MY answer for MY story, which was asked for in the polls. 🙃
My partner is an only child and says he feels like he missed out on so much throughout his life. I am 1 of 4 so when I talk about my childhood and growing up, he always says it sounds amazing. On the flip side, because he is an only child, his parents were and still are able to provide him with a lot more than my parents could, because there isn’t the pressure or arguments caused about fairness with siblings as well as the extra costs! So it really is swings and roundabouts, but I can never say “I wish I was an only child” whereas my partner does say “I wish I had siblings”.
Growing up an only child, was the absolute worst, and being an adult without brothers or sisters is even harder. The loneliness is incomparable, and the resentment i have towards my parents for intentionally making me an only child. I know it’s hard being a mama, I’m not here to shame anyone who’s one and done, please don’t come after me. But as an only child, my life has been so difficult, and I always prayed to have a sibling at a young. Age to have someone to play with, talk with, kill each other, ect. There’s nothing worse than severe loneliness. Friends come and go, but family is forever. If your thinking about having another, do so not for you, but for your children’s sake, they will have someone forever to be a friend, enemy, whatever the case is, it’s theirs if that makes any sense.