People who grew up with separated parents & who had to go between houses...
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My dad wasn’t someone we wanted to be around so only having to see him for visits worked so much better and we were happy kids
A different perspective: My parents split when my sister and I were older and we both wish they hadn't stayed together 'for the kids'. It was much more peaceful having two separate homes, holidays, and everything else than it was dealing with them not getting along.
I just wanted my parents to be happy so if that means not together I think that’s the best thing from my experience anyway.
@Kara thank you for sharing. That would be one of my fears if my partner & I ended; that he would talk badly of me to my daughter. He kinda already does 🙄😬he'll say how he doesn't think I'm capable of doing certain things as a 'joke' 🙄so I know he would go further if we broke up which is one of the reasons why I don't know if I'd want him in her life.
@Samantha ugh, that's exactly why I'm considering leaving. I was gona try sticking it out but I'm deeply unhappy 🥹
My parents have been apart since before I could form memories. biggest takeaways as someone who has experienced this: I’ve never ever had the thought enter my mind “I wish my parents were together”. It was something I never knew so I never missed that experience. My only wish looking back is that they treated each other with respect and put me before anything else when speaking about each other to me. My mom constantly belittled my dad to me and told me negative things that greatly affected my ability to form a relationship with him. There is a course online called “for the sake of the children” in my Province that is very helpful on navigating this. My dad’s house never really felt like “mine” and it felt more like visiting a hotel when I slept over. It helps children to have a “primary residence” they consider theirs rather than considering two separate places equally their home. I don’t mean this to say stay together btw ** just how it felt.