Looking for ways to cope with my emotions

I can’t stop this feeling of being so overwhelmed everyday. I know that everyone tells me that this is part of motherhood and that I’ll learn to get on with it but I don’t understand how to deal with my feelings and not lash out. I’m trying so hard to keep my feelings under control, but I don’t have the heart in me for me to let me daughter cry it out but I also can’t keep my feelings under control. Sometimes I’m frustrated and not knowing what to do to calm her down other times I sit there and cry with her and I feel like I am making her worse. I feel like I am a crap mom and my husband keeps telling me I’m not, that’s it’s just my emotions getting the best of me. But I just want to be happy for my kids and I don’t know how.
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I understand how you feel. Thank God you have a nice husband who is there for you and telling you it's not your fault. I went thru it with my daughter 7 years ago and I didn't have a support person. Have you thought about a therapist? Most of them do virtual visits now so I mean if you can leave your baby with your husband for 45 min once a week and go in another room and speak to someone that can help a lot. I don't recommend medication but unless you feel like it'll help I'd start off with a very low dose of something safe that you can still breast feed with. But therapy helped me and still does. Also you can try to journal your feelings and stuff. And adult coloring books help wonders too. Combination of therapy, adult coloring and Journaling is how I cope. Also if you're a coffee person or tea, maybe have some of that when you are doing those activities. I hope it gets better. But remember it is not your fault you are a great mother to your children, we all just need support sometimes! ♥️

@Ash thank you so much. I feel like I’m failing my kids because I can’t get everything under control. I just recently started seeing a therapist but I’ll definitely be take everything else you said into consideration. I’m to the point I’ll do anything to be myself again for my kiddos. Thank you again

You're welcome :) I know how you feel, motherhood is overwhelming sometimes but seeing my daughter happy is what keeps me going.

https://www.jessicaurlichs.com/post/mama-all-i-see-is-you Sending you peace and grace ❤️

I also understand this :( it is so hard. Sometimes I go to bed crying to my husband because I can’t handle the thought of waking up multiple times in the night with the baby anymore. One thing that I found that helped was giving other people specific responsibilities so I didn’t have to hold the mental load all the time. When the baby is asleep then I hand him the monitor and he will help if they wake up. But my brain can take a break and I don’t have to be staring at it 24/7. Or he does the nighttime routine on certain days so I can just lay down (usually weekends when he isn’t working). He will feed her dinner meals when he is home… etc. Then it’s not 100% my job. Not sure if that is similar to your frustrations and difficulties but I found it helped me to feel good so I could help the baby. You can’t fill others cups if yours are empty type of a thing.

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