If you’ve been with you s/o for years, do you still feel something when you kiss them or does it feel “empty”??

I know feeling butterflies and things like that is usually stuff that you feel in beginnings of relationships but idk, when I kiss my partner I just feel NOTHING. If that makes sense? Anyone else? … I feel like I’m falling out of love but I just don’t know anymore. I’m craving passion but even when he tries I don’t feel anything
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I feel this way now. But I’m 7 weeks PP and we’ve been clashing. Otherwise beforehand, I still felt everything. During our relationship we’ve fallen in and out over again. At the end of the day we both know it’s a decision we make so we always make it through & just accept that’s how we feel when we feel it 🤷🏻‍♀️ definitely sucks but worth having the convo with your partner as sometimes they’re feeling the exact same way. Atleast that opens the door to conversations about working on it or separating if that’s where it goes

Depends on the kiss! But generally I still feel things.

I mean- you said it- you think you are falling out of love. And that’s ok. It happens. I would recommend maybe trying to figure out what was the thing that got you to this point to see if it is something you want to heal/fix or if you think it’s time to walk away. And if you do walk away there is nothing wrong with that- sometimes relationships just hit their natural course and it’s better to move on… just depends on what you want.

I have to be in the mood for it. It’s normal for there to be periods without feeling in love. The love you feel will change over time. Love is active, it’ll go away if you don’t nurture it

I don’t get butterflies anymore but I still very much enjoy kissing him/him kissing me

If you think you’re falling out of love with him then that’s completely understandable, but don’t base it off a kiss! Depending on the kiss, I don’t get butterflies with my boyfriend & we’re only 6-7 months in. If it’s a regular peck, I get happy but definitely not that first kiss experience.

I get butterflies when he’s around still and I still get all geedey. When he kisses me I get butterflies and I happy. We’ve been together for 11 years, we’ve been together since freshmen year of high school and I’m still in love with him as the first time I saw him that will never change. Falling out of love is ok, my husband and me went to marriage counseling and it helped a lot. Now we talk about our feelings and our relationship and make sure we’re on the same page.

I never had butterflies. Lol

Ohhhh I still feel it. Definitely. Even when he slides his hand over my ass or hugs from behind or gives me a shoulder squeeze, when he has his hand on my lap. And his hand is always on my lap if he’s sitting next to me

Our love just continues to grow as time goes on :) trying for baby #2!

Its a different kind of feeling. We have been together for 17 years, we're not 16 anymore where a kiss is meant in a sexual way. When he kisses me good bye or good night its a security. Its a "im thinking of you" while we're apart. Its a different feeling. Still an important feeling.

I’ve been with my husband almost 11 years. I still feel all the feels and get excited when he comes home from work like a teenager 😂. If I didn’t feel it majority of the time well… I wouldn’t be married.

35 weeks currently and I’m head over heels in love with my boyfriend. He’s my best friend and my favorite part of my day is sleeping next to him cuddled up. Yesterday we bought matching xmas pajamas and he cherishes the ground I work on. We definitely had our rough patch but not while I was pregnant, that was like a year and a half ago.

^ I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and to answer your question, yes. Yes I still get all the butterfly feelings & I get excited for his texts/for him to come home everyday & to spend time with him.

Ugh literally the night after I posted this, I felt a little spark again. And it sucks because I just started crying and I couldn’t work up the nerve to try to explain it😭 I miss it so much and I love him, I’ve just been feeling so much doubt.

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