Anyone else ?

Since I gave birth, husband has changed a lot. I almost feel like he's not happy. My baby is 2 months today and we ain't spoken for 5 weeks . Am being stubborn because he wronged me and he does not want to apologise . Its sad and I am fed up. There's no speaking to him. Plus he wants that when I shouldn't have to say anything he knows what he's done. He said things there are not nice to me and he bitched about me behind my back. Am putting all my energy in my child as I don't want him to ruin precious moments l.
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I can understand the change in your husband after having a baby. I know my husband was so worried and stressed out about things so he was definitely acting different. I just sat him down and we talked through his worries and I gave solutions to the ones I could which helped him a lot. As for the talking behind your back and saying mean things and then giving you the silent treatment that just sounds like a child's behavior. I personally would not put up with that kind of behavior and I would have tossed him out. If you want it to work then you guys are going to have to find a way to communicate.

I'm sorry girl that you're going through this. My baby's dad hasn't been around took a job that he works 13 hour days 7 days a week at a legal weed shop and barely brings home $400 a month..... I would b**** and complain about how much I miss him and I have needs also and that he's so uninvolved and I feel alone in this haven't given birth yet but we're not together anymore. He hasn't been home and he's supposed to be out by the end of the month I have a feeling he might try to show up when the baby is supposed to be born and I really hope not but part of me will be actually very hurt and heartbroken if he doesn't try but I know it's for the best. He has three other kids with a different woman and he's completely uninvolved in their lives he talks to two of them that live with his sister and he said he doesn't really trip on the third one because he never got to bond with her so he doesn't feel that Bond or pull towards her. And I have a feeling that that's exactly how fulfilled with this baby

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Things will change and your relationship will be different. He’s gone from being your number one priority to second place. From what you have written it sounds like you just need to talk. As for talking behind your back, let’s be honest how many times do we moan about our partners to friends and family but we don’t class that as talking behind their backs when really it could be. Communication is key in this stage of your relationship. The first 2yrs after a child can make or break. Try and laugh together every day even if it’s just through sarcasm to survive. Hug and don’t end a day on an argument. You admit you being stubborn which won’t help. Just remember he’s a team mate not the opposite team Talk before it’s too late. He can’t be that bad or you wouldn’t have chosen him to enter this new chapter with. And if it is that bad - walk away because there is no point living unhappy as tomorrow isn’t guaranteed

5 weeks?! Girl that's insane, and really ridiculous if I'm being honest! Having a baby changes everything, as they demand SO much of our time and energy, that it's inevitable that our relationship suffers somewhat at the beginning. We've been the same, we've had some awful arguments, my hormones were crazy so I've overreacted at times too. You absolutely need to talk, even if that means you making the first move!

It’s the toughest year, right after childbirth. Lots get divorced not knowing that. You can read about it online though and that’s how I found strength through struggles and discussed with him

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