What mental illness is this ?

Sounds exactly like my ex! Especially the 100 text messages and then days later he would act like nothing happened

@Steph but what does the message consist of ? I feel like it’s one thing to message what the other person did , but he was just messaging about my past , things I’ve told him in passing . Then another my family . It’s not normal . Liek nothing had to do with what I told him to stop . Which was drinking and smoking .

Was about his views on me, my past, my family, his opinion on how I am as a mother. And yes, also things I’ve told him in passing. It would all be warped and made super negative. Also had issue with excessive drinking and smoking weed

Over the years it made me feel very anxious and very nervous to raise any issues with him. The reaction would always be horrible and I would receive endless messages

@Steph ohh God . That’s my issue. He never changed?

It doesn’t have to be a mental illness. He seems emotionally abusive, which may stem from childhood problems. But if he’s not trying to change, heal and treat others better I would honestly think about why you chose to stay.

@Rebecca well I think his father treated his mom like that , like his dad use to yell at his mom about her family , but he hardly knew them .

It could be mental illness or could be abuse. From what I have seen from family and friends, it's usually abuse. Basically put you down for absolutely no reason and make you feel like you are worthless and they are putting up with you, may be jealous of you and or you family for some reason whether it's achievements, whether it's that you guys get on well and maybe he doesn't with his (as examples). Once you don't give him any attention comes and shows his 'love' which doesn't seem to be genuine. Then after some time opens his claws again. A classic psychopath and narcissist who struggles with responsibility (I.e. how he should be towards your Son).

@Salma this sounds exactly like him , he don’t get along with his family , but they are all educated but judgemental . My side is not but are all forgiving and accepting . He stopped taking them because of his crazy behavior, and they have stopped reaching out . I was thinking it’s jealously because they have never did anything to him yet during arguments he would say things about them .

Tbh if its mental health issue he should get seen by a Mental Health Professional and get some help but if he isn't willing to this is how its going to be with him and he will also at some point ruin his relationship with his Son as well. Depression and / or anxiety can be improved by therapy and medication, amongst other things, even if it doesn't fully go away. This abuse will only get worse. There is a particular person who is my married side of family who also ruined his relationship with his parents due to his behaviour, he also has ruined his relationship with his child and his relationship with wife has been down the drain for over majority of it, now they sort of get along, its like a scary movie, never know when there is going to be a scare all of the sudden. Because of him, social services are also involved. Soon, he will ruin his relationship with those who still keep him close because he is family... I mean how many times can you forgive and forget and let bygones be bygones? never ends well.

People are the way they are. They don’t change

It's abuse. Whether or not he does have a mental issue going on, this is not okay for anyone to be doing to anyone else.

Sounds narcissistic

This sounds very narcissistic!