Missed miscarriage
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So sorry to hear of your news 😔 I am going through the same right now. I went to A&E last Wednesday as I was 10 weeks and started bleeding (it was light bleeding) they scanned and also confirmed no heartbeat could be found - I had to return a week later for another scan to confirm. I did end up passing the baby on Tuesday at home. This was very light still, some back pain but nothing major. When I went for my scan on Thursday, they said the sac is still in there with quite a bit of blood around it. I was offered the tablet but said il wait for it to naturally pass. I’m still bleeding quite light , currently on day 10 of bleeding. For me, I’ve not had much pain so far. I’m also worried about if it’s going to suddenly become painful / more heavy. But the initial passing of the baby didn’t hurt, I think the further along you are, the more it probably hurts. Just keep a pad on and check when wiping. It was very obvious to me when I had passed it. Feel free to drop me a message on here🤍
It was the hardest thing I’ve been though, I also have a 1 year old boy and he was my only motivation to get up as best as I could and carry on. Whilst I think about my baby every day I am feeling much better especially considering at the time I could not see how I would ever feel better! I do feel very empty and still have moments of pure sadness but it does get easier! Here if you ever need to message - talking to others really helped me feel not so alone xx
@Kim Sorry to hear this 🤍
@Tee thank you. Sorry to hear you have been through it too. I have a 3yr old boy, who has been very excited to be a big brother. He talks about baby everyday and kisses my belly! We haven’t told him about the miscarriage yet. I don’t even know how to 😔 we are planning to try again as soon as we can , so are wondering if it’s even worth saying anything to him?!? It’s a very mentally confusing time! 😔 xx
@Tee I’m sorry for your loss, I just am not bleeding as heavy as I thought I would it’s just like a regular period but painful backache and cramps but my baby died around 7 weeks so I don’t know what I should be expecting xx
@Kim I’m so sorry about your loss I’m currently on day 3 of bleeding how’d you know when you’d passed the baby as I’m unsure if I will know as baby was only measuring 7 weeks and a few days. It’s hurting so much because I just feel so down and like I’m crying so much every day I am drained and always tired x
@Kim I want to try again as soon as I can because my little boy was also very excited and I just want to go back to being pregnant again x
On the pregnancy+ app, ofc it shows you what the baby looks like at certain weeks. So I knew what shape/size it would be. So when I wipe, I just kept on checking the tissue and could tell. I did also take a photo of it to show the doctor and they confirmed that it was that. It’s completely normal to feel the way you are feeling. Take all the time you need and try not to bottle anything up. Speak to any friends/family if it helps💓 Xx
@Kim thankyou can you keep me updated with yours I’m going naturally with it aswell just like when you stop bleeding and when the ultrasound shows the sacs gone xx
Yeah of course. Like I said , feel free to drop me a message if you wanted 🥰 happy to just reply on comments though if you’d rather not message me xx
I am so sorry, coming out the scan room to a room of other expecting mothers is the worst. I couldn’t look at anyone I kept my head down trying to hide the news I’d just gotten from them. I had a mmc at 12 weeks at the end of September so had to have medical management where you take a tablet and then have a pessary. I am not sure how different it will be but for myself I had strong cramps for about 2 hours and then it felt like my waters went (not sure if this happens) after that I ran to the toilet where I passed a lot of blood, clots and my angel baby. This part was not physically painful. It took about 10 mins of stronger cramps and the placenta came, it was after this that the cramps turned almost labour like and it was so painful for me as well as loosing large clots and a significant amount of blood - this lasted about 6-8 hours. I then bled heavily for a few days, passed another fist sized clot and then after that clot passed the bleeding eased and was more like a period.