Struggling

I'm in exactly the same situation down to the breastfeeding and Co sleeping. Absolutely dreading it too. No advice just solidarity ❤️

Yes I’ve gone back 4 days a week, I don’t see my baby& toddler from 0730am-530pm on these days. For me, going back to work has been great. I feel like me again and love having adult conversation. I was starting to get cabin fever being at home as I ran out of money to go out and do things with my toddler/ baby so going for walks/park and staying at home were the only things we could really do. It also makes me appreciate my days off with them more, so now I have a little bit more money to spare (as much as you can have left after paying nursery fees!) 🥴 I try take them out to soft plays or to cafes etc. it is awful the first few days but you soon get back into the swing of it x

Yes! I am so so so sad about going back. I’m considering extending to May if we can afford it.

I had to go back at 3 months old just 1 day a week and gradually built it up. I’m now at 4 days a week. It’s hard and I really hated the jump from 3 days to 4 and dreading picking up a 5th day in the next couple of months. But I did the same with my 3 year old and he’s such a well rounded little boy and loves nursery. They do so much with him that I wouldn’t have. I needed work for my own sanity and it just makes the time with them more special. I drop them at nursery at 8 and collect about 5.30 3 days a week. The other days I WFH and they are with my mum or husband so I do get to be around them a bit more x

I had an absolute meltdown about it the other night and actually feel a bit better as I was trying to pretend I was fine! Ive been reading all the comments online about how well baby has adjusted and how much more present mums are when reunited x

Please message me I’m in the same boat going back full time in February. Still breastfeeding I’m dreading💔

Yeah absolutely dreading it. Did a kit day and while being adult me was great, I felt bereft the entire time.

Im back 2 months now and its getting easier every day but ill not lie i found it hard at the start being away from him and i feel like im still trying to find my groove with it all! My LB gets dropped off at 7.30am and my husband will pick him up at 4.30/5, i then get home around 6. He has settled into it all so well - far better than me🥲🩵

I went back this week (easing in 2 days a week until my annual leave runs out in January) and that first drop off was the hardest part, but day 2 was a little bit easier. LG was totally fine (although was having a meltdown when I picked her up at lunchtime) but I felt like my arm had been chopped off. My advice is to start working as soon as you arrive - I found logging on was a huge distraction and helped a lot xx