Pop her in her bed outside the bathroom but keep the door open when you shower. Also pop her in her bed to make yourself something to eat. Your not going to be doing your best if your not looking after yourself and it’s ok to put them down in a safe space and walk away everyone has done it I know I definitely have. I also put headphones in when she doesn’t stop crying so I can sooth but not have to listen to a scream that goes right through me. You got this! I know it won’t feel like it but you do x
@Samantha thank you for the advice, I’ve tried putting her in the carrier but she doesn’t like feeling ‘trapped’ she’s the same when swaddled just fights been held restrained.. so it’s hard! She is going through it I know she’s only a baby and it’s tough for her too but it’s so hard and frustrating:( me and my partner are really struggling to cope!
You need to ask for as much from your partner as possible. A potential solution if LO is waking up hourly, to sleep with just her and you, and let your husband have better sleep. At the same time your husband will watch baby during the day time as much as possible (for example all weekend, all afternoons and evenings). This is just a suggestion, not saying it is a perfect fit for your situation
Oh, that's so stressful, I really feel for you. I don't have much experience with the same issue, but my friend had something similar and just to be able to get things done in the day, she would wear a baby carrier and her and baby would do the housework 'together'... baby was happy to be included when wearing the carrier and being able to engage in all the things she did. Sorry, I don't have any suggestions for showering or sleep though. When things are tough, always remember that this will pass, you are stronger than you think, crying is just a form of communication and (in a strange way) you can be happy that your baby is comfortable to share that communication with you (i always thank mine when she cries, for letting me know there is something that she wants doing). If you think there is more to it than this, eg something medical, maybe book in for a check with the Dr. Sending lots of positivity to you both x