Partners birthday

What do you do for your partners birthday when you don’t work? I’m a sahm and my partner does give me money for things but it’s mostly for food shopping or if the kids needs things, petrol or bills.(he will also give me money to treat myself e.g get my nails done) Sometimes I am able to save some money and put aside but recently I’ve been having to use it for things we need. I’ve managed to book us something to do in the evening and I got him a few small gifts (two books, a watch box and a pair of ugg slippers). Last minute he decided he wanted to go to the theatre but since I didn’t know in advance I didn’t have the money to book it. I feel so bad now since he’s booked it himself and will mostly like have to pay for dinner as well. I feel awful about this, so I’m wondering what other mums do in similar situations? I’m thinking next year to start buying bits earlier in the year. The only problem with this is he usually just buys himself whatever he wants or needs so it’s hard to buy him anything in general☹️

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Men are so hard to buy for because they do tend to have already bought anything they need! I’d say try not to feel bad that you’re not able to contribute to his birthday as much as you want to financially. Think of it this way…. If you didn’t do the super important job of looking after his kid(s), then he wouldn’t be able to go out and earn money for you both, so your input is equally valuable, even though you’re not technically the one bringing in the money 😊

Maybe get a money box just for him. Save your loose change throughout the year or if you have a spare £5/10/20 every so often. I work and still struggle. My partners birthday is 12th dec and I’ve still not got a thing and wondering where the moneys coming from to get him stuff😅😅

@Ebony Rose this is such a good idea, will definitely be giving this a go for next year thank you! It’s also not helpful that their birthdays are so close to Christmas😂 now I have to start thinking about that too

@Hannah yep that’s what I struggle with, the fact he just gets whatever he needs/wants himself. Thank you, sometimes it’s hard to feel like I’m contributing equally since I’m not able to help out financially and it makes me feel a bit useless but I guess I am helping out in some way

Exactly !!!😂😂😂 I’m like well do I give him more and better stuff for birthday or for Christmas, really annoys me😅 mines 1st dec too so it’s same for him but that’s not my problem 😂😂x

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