Second baby
Hello ladies. My LO is 20 months old and I want to go for my 2nd. But my LO is not mobile (he has a condition), so I am worried about miscarrying if I have to pick him up and put him down many times during the day. He is 14kg at the moment and we live on the first floor so there are stairs everyday. This might seem a bit too cautious but I am also an IVF mama and want to use my other frozen embryo. If I miscarry I would have to do the process all again, which I know is a possibility anyway.
Any tips for lifting/managing with the eldest when having your 2nd? I know mums end up picking their kids up anyway even if they are mobile so maybe I am worrying about nothing. Anything to help would be much appreciated. Thank you!
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My eldest was nearly 3 and a half (and average for her height and weight) when I got pregnant with my second. She was mobile but very lazy and wanted carrying a lot, and there were no problems. I latterly would have her on my shoulders rather than on my hip and that helped. Sending lots of best wishes!
Thanks for your replies ladies. My husband works but we agreed he will be around more later on in the pregnancy. I have plenty of family support but they don’t live with me so it’s the day to day and I’m okay with lifting heavy later on. I was just worried about miscarrying at the beginning xx
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Im 5mths pregnant and regular pick my 2 year old up but that’s for cuddles, might be harder for you as your baby needs additional help. It’s going to get harder as you get bigger. Where is the father, or your family. They are going to have to be around more and also after the birth. If you have a c-section then you won’t be able to do anything like that for a weeks and weeks after. Maybe work out a plan now. Can your partner wfh more towards the end of your pregnancy? Or family stay with you for stints of time,