Are you really into men,

I’m not into men, however I wouldn’t say the issue is necessarily you or that you are not into men. I would say that you and your husband likely have different love languages and needs. While you might be the tactile type and need that type of intimacy to feel good, your husband on the other hand may not get the same feelings from those things. There is also the possibility you’re just not into him also.

True,but I need to stay in a marriage just because off my kids ,I now it's wrong..but my kids have disability and I can not do it alone

Hi Christell how are you doing dear? I understand where u coming from cos me I also need that warmth touch now and then ,we women think emotional the men they don't think like us ,have you tried talking to him about it?? Ur hubby also south african cos that's stange why wouldn't he touch u ? Is he working ?

Daniella,ja hy werk hy se net dit pla hom nie .en ek dink eknhet ook met tyd kouer en kouer teen oor hom geword so nou doen ek nie moeite nie want weet niks gaan gebeur nie.ek besef wat almal se maar na 17 jaar se huwelik en dit word nie beter het ek my aandag ook begin draai nog nooit oor die tou getrap nie maar bedoel net eks kla met koue mense ..soek nou n vriendin om net saam te lag ,gesels ,wyn te drink en net my vreugde in die lewe terug te kry .goeie vriendinne is skaars veral as jy kids het en hulle nie .

Yes do what makes you happy dear ,do ur hobbies go with the girls have a good chat ,yes it's hard if the other women don't have children I understand you ,just go on about it with out him then,if that's good for you ,I've realised as soon as the partner sees that we are happy with ourselfs they will come back to you.

Pregnancy can affect how we feel about ourselves as it changes our body in a way that we couldn’t have predicted. Births can also cause a mental trauma which can make you feel uncomfortable and no longer desire for anything to penetrate you. Something that is often overlooked and almost always the case with mums. It might not be that for you but you can try and reflect back to how you actually feel. If once you had your children, none of you bother to show affections to one another anymore, then problem lies in why did you suddenly stop showing affections. Having children can make you forget about how to be a lover, and that tends to happen during the first few years of having a baby. What you need to do is to sit and talk to your husband and ask yourselves whether do you still love each other like the first time that you two fell in love. You need to rekindled that spark again. Do you have date nights? Do you kiss goodbye in the morning before one of you (or both) go to work?

When was the last time to say you love each other sincerely? When was the last time you shared a romantic night? When was the last time you held each other hands? It’s not that you suddenly lose interest in men, it’s because both of you stop putting in efforts to love each other like you were on your honeymoon. Don’t let your kids get in the way of being in love. If anything, you can get them involved by enjoying a nice getaway together as a family. Love is there, you just forgot how to find it within each other.

Thanks girls,date night can't happen. We do not have anyone to look after the kids. My 2 kids have mental disabilitys.. .Autistic, Epileptic, adhd,add,speech disabilitys, conduct disorder, and MID also. So it's difficult to enjoy dates.. I had to leave my job last year after 17 years at one employer where my work people were my brother and sisters. It was my safe space. So I had toe quiet and we moved away so my daughter could attend a spesial needs skool. And now I sit at home ,don't like it. I miss my work and people...

What about at home date nights?

Date night doesn’t have to big and extravaganza. It just need to be you and him sitting down together, having a meal. Be it at home after they have all gone to bed, even just for an hour before your bedtime can make a huge difference in your relationship.

I agree,but he works late, and when he gets home, he works again .we can't sit and talk nothing for each other to say .

What compromise can take place then? What compromise would you like to see?

What does he work when he gets home ? So he goes to bed when then ? Dosant he rest ? I think he's just trying to keep himself busy maybe it's also alot for him ? Can't you just say now we need to talk it's important?