For those of you TTC who've never been pregnant before

Does TTC ever feel like a race to you.... Like your rational mind knows it's not.. but deep down somewhere, you're trying to race something, or someone, or even yourself. For me, it's wanting to be pregnant before my other friends that are planning on ttc soon. And also myself, like that if I'm trying it must be because I'm ready and supposed to be conceiving, instead of letting it happen at the most perfect divine timing.

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Ttc doesn't feel like a race to me it honestly is a journey I've always been excited about with my partner because I have such a deep love with my boyfriend 😍 and believe in divine timing 😍

@Babyboo thanks for sharing your perspective! My practical mind agrees with you! I'm just trying to work out those shadow feelings of mine that try to make me believe that I'm the one in control... when I know I'm truly not. I love that though! I gotta remind myself more that it's a journey!

To me, overall i have been trying for 14 years and it just seems like a journey to me. Im thankful for everything along the way and now my husband and I will be undergoing our first IVF transfer on January 16th. So im blessed that we made it this far.

I'm only one cycle into trying but each negative test I felt more and more defeated. I haven't thought of it as a race but I hate that it's not something I have any control over. It's hard when you want something so bad and you're just left anxiously waiting it out.

@Patrice I hope that is successful for you two and that you'll get your baby soon💞

@Jordan I'm also only a couple cycles in.. just started my third. Im with you there on it being hard that we have no control over it. That goes hang in hand with my subconscious thinking I'm racing something. Like, I know it's not a race, but i also want it to happen now (while knowing it will happen when it's supposed to) I've honestly choosen not to do tests... I'd rather my body tell me I'm not pregnant with my period than a test be negative... and I think that's helped me not get too bummed out. But it it's an intense waiting game! Best wishes to you!

@Sarah thank you so much. I hope everything goes great for you. Sending baby dust your way

@Sarah Agreed! I took my last test today and decided I'm not buying anymore. The up and downs when reading them has become too much. It'll happen exactly when it's supposed to be for all of us!

I do have a kiddo but ttc for baby #2 and went through a loss. I still feel this way. Like I’m behind or someone has three kiddos and I only have one. Or someone is farther in pregnancy and so should I. Or someone’s posting an announcement photo I should be. I felt that way before my first also. Idk what it is in women. Maybe comparison?

@Rachel Thanks for sharing<3 I'm sorry for your loss😔 That's a good point... comparison... maybe mixed with the fear of missing out.

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