Is there something wrong with me?

You are absolutely not alone, I get this a lot, I've wanted a child since I was a child but coming to terms with the fact it's actually happening and I have to press pause on studies and work can be difficult because quite literally everything is going to change and change is scary. I am hoping the love I have for baby will trump any unintentional resentment, but I'm taking to time to take care of myself and prioritise my emotions. Whatever you feel is valid and you're allowed to feel those things! At your booking appointment, ask to be referred to the mental health team (usually midwifes in the same hospital who have some additional training) and they may be able to provide some reassurance or strategies to cope with what you're feeling at the moment? Your hormones will settle down as you get into the second trimester, and once you see your baby on scans or eventually feel the kicks hopefully that connection will grow, wishing you the best! ❤️

To start there is nothing wrong with you! Hormones drive us crazy! I felt the same when I was 6 weeks pregnant. For me I think it was because there’s no kicking and no physical change with my body or had a scan yet. Have you had a private scan or are you waiting for your 12 week? I promise you, when you start to feel kicks and get a bump your feelings will change. Postpartum body change is also hard I won’t lie. But I remind myself that my body is amazing, created this little human (well two for me) and gave birth!!! You need to learn to love your new self and also, your baby won’t care what your body looks like they will love their mamma no matter what x

I didn’t feel a real connection until my lg was here and I wouldn’t even say I felt it straight away (not many people would admit that) my connection grew as we learnt about each other got to know each other and now at almost 2 years have the strongest bond

There is nothing wrong with you. For me this was totally normal. 6 weeks is still so early and having an actual baby was very much still this intangible thing. I’m pregnant with my second and it wasn’t until a 16 week scan to find out the sex that it actually became real and I felt true joy and excitement. Your hormones will do wild things to you and pregnancy can be hard but if you’re still feeling like this at your booking in appointment, definitely let the midwife know. Life certainly changes when you become a parent and there will be lots of compromising but that doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy the things from before or put energy into the things that make you you once the baby is older.

Totally agree with @Josie I struggled to connect with the baby inside me (until I had a scare when my 30kg dog jumped on my stomach and the baby stopped moving so I realised I did have a connection, I just didn’t feel it everyday), and wouldn’t say it was as soon as he was born either but now he’s 3 and he’s my entire world!! So totally normal I’d say!! Xx

I didn’t feel any connection to my baby the entire pregnancy but once he was born that completely changed!

This is very normal and I think a lot of people and me experience it, just people on internet lie to all of us and don’t admit saying how amazing it is and how they feel the best etc. just try to take it easy and don’t pressure yourself. During your first appointment they make a big deal asking about your mental health etc and it’s not just for nothing they ask this - everyone experiences it, your hormones play a huge deal in it, just not everyone admits it.

It takes time even years once they are out of your body. Relax. 🧘‍♀️

The connection will come slowly. Just relax and focus on yourself. I actually miscarried at 6 weeks and at first I thought ill be fine, this little thing was barely even the size of a bean and it's not like I even had a bond. Then the days after that I felt so depressed and that's when I realised that there actually was a bond, even though I didn't realise it at the time