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Stop letting him come over Y’all are not together Put your foot down point blank if his mom can’t respect your rules she doesn’t get access to you or your children Make a schedule and stuck to it Right now you’re being walked all over don’t let them
I'd be calling the police if someone entered my house after I made it clear i didn't want them there, especially in this situation when you two aren't even together. How old are the kids? Is there a reason he is coming to yours for visitation Vs having them at his/his mum's on his time?
Stop letting him stay at the weekends, and go low contact with her and his family because she and they clearly can't/won't listen, and it's now a safety concern with your young son. Stamp your boundaries into the floor because if you don't, you'll be dealing with this for years to come and you're the primary carer. Also the next time she blames you for not being with her son, tell her she had her time to raise children and if she had maybe raised him to treat women better and keep his dick in his pants, that you might still be together and she needs to stop enabling his shitty behaviour. She doesn't get to rule the roost in your own home, with your son, end of Mama. I don't tolerate that shit and people be like that, where they will cross your rules and boundaries if you let them. Sad but true.
@Alex the kids are 1 and 2 and he lives with his mum his mum is a massive horder and there is little to no space in the house so if they touch anything it all could fall on them and they would get injured and since she disappeared with my son we have both come to the decision that it is not safe he also lives an hour away from me in the city hence why he has been stopping over in the weekends.
@Samantha Thank you this really helped :)
@Sharnee yeah as soon as he cheated on me I was getting loads of grief off her that I made it up so I sent all the messages between me and the girl he cheated on me with and all the messages between me and him he said he cheated on me because he loved me which is twisted af. The worst part about it worst part of the girl he slept with had an STI and it was a 2 weeks before I had my son.
She disappeared with your son? What the fuck?
@Kayleigh yeah she used to take care of him while I was at work she usually brought him home at 6:30 no problem. I was at home after work I made tea then it got to half 7 still not there no call no answer no nothing so I tried to get a hold of her I couldn't I have no contact from her until midnight when I was on the verge of calling the police and she didn't even get in contact with me she contacted my ex.
Wow. What an absolute nutjob
She sounds unhinged - do whatever you need to do to look after and protect yourself, your baby, your peace and happiness!
Stop letting him stay the weekend or come over, if he can’t set boundaries and follow through with them then no. If they can’t follow your simple and polite requests then no they aren’t welcome in. Why should you have to put up with this bs? In YOUR OWN MF HOUSE?! I’d straight tell them, you’re not welcome in my home unless you follow my rules, if you can’t then you’ll be asked to leave, if you don’t leave when asked then I’ll have to resort to calling the police for trespassing or whatever you need to do. If you show up unannounced or unwelcome then you will not be allowed in and you won’t be opening the door. Cut them all off, they wanna call you an evil witch then be one honey. Do they know he cheated? Like how cruel can some people actually be?