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I relate to the no sleep on a year. It is honestly torture and that doesn't help to regulate our emotions. My little boy is a slapper when I get him to sleep. When he does it I put him down and when I'm getting frustrated I put him in his bed and take a couple of minutes. Is there a song that calms her down? If not try the happy song, you can either play it or sing it. It calms me down too.
It’s so hard to stay calm and regulated when you’re managing all those things and our brains are always thinking about the next 20 things we’ve to organise 🙈 Sleep and food is a huge fight for us lately too. I feel so angry inside when I’ve made a home cooked meal and I’m burnt out and then it end up on the floor. I know she’s just a baby. But my instinct is to feel rage! I think I’m still running in fight or flight mode 🤷🏼♀️
What helps me is saying to myself and out loud ‘I know you are not giving me a hard time, you are having a hard time’ and kind of giving the issues a name instead of saying my baby doesn’t want to sleep, I say sleep doesn’t want to visit my baby. Where did sleep go. Come back sleep. It sounds a bit crazy, but it helps me. Stay strong mama’s and give yourselves grace, you are only human and just like your baby is experiencing everything for the first time, so are you. No one can prepare you so when we ‘fail/fall short’ that is part of the learning experience. Good luck mama!
Oh this is me and I have the biggest Mum guilt afterwards. My LO was just screaming and screaming at me last night at 11pm until 1am and nothing was settling her and it breaks my heart that I can't do anything to help-I hold her she gets upset, I put her down she gets upset and I just snapped my her saying just stop crying and I know she doesn't mean it. We have meltdowns multiple times a day at the moment over food, wearing a coat, wearing a hat, being I the pushchair, because a toy isn't where she wants it to be, I don't understand what she wants,it's relentless. I am so glad I am not the only one in the thick of it. I think it's just a tough time for them currently as with everything it will pass but yeah it's hard. I feel you.
@Tasha yea we used the play that song after bath time. I have some songs I sing at bedtime and that regulated me for sure. I keep saying I need a new habit like to just take 2 mins time out to breath but in the moment I forget
In the moment it's hard though. Or make up your own song to help regulate. I used to sing baby Wes do do do do do it's okay do do do do do do it's bed time... in the same style as baby shark
I lost it this morning too. Everything is a fight at the moment, meals, water, milk, naps, night sleep, even nappy changes, and the split nights are killing me. She refused her breakfast and I lost it. So fed up. I feel guilty but we are human theres only so much we can take