in need of support 😢

Oh no! That sounds like a very difficult situation but the most important thing is you and baby- can you go anywhere for a break and to focus on you? Your relationship with him can wait really it’s about making yourself stable and calm now. The messages speak for themselves unfortunately, he doesn’t need to send them and they are cheating. Whether you want to forgive him is up to you but first and foremost you need to get some distance and focus on yourself and your baby. Can you go home or anything for some time out?

Also don’t worry about pride, your friends are your friends and they will be there for you if you tell them! Don’t be alone. X

@Victoria I don’t have anyone close by unfortunately, everyone is over an hours drive and I’m in such pain with PGP I struggle to drive that far 😔

Bless you this is awful 😞 but especially when your hormones are all over the place at the moment you must feel at a total loss. I would take a deep breath and try and calm your racing mind and then I think you need to speak to him about it. You might not like what he has to say but it might be something once aired that can be worked though but whatever you do don’t bottle it up, if not him tell someone even if it’s your midwife. X

So incredibly sorry you're going through this! You are not to blame, please don't blame yourself or baby or weight, this is on him and him only. You really need to speak to friends, you need good level headed advice from someone who knows you well enough to know what you need ❤️ maybe just one friend, maybe not even your closest friend, just the right friend. This is such a huge time, weddings are stressful, pregnancy is stressful, even trips like your honeymoon can be really stressful! This is not to excuse him at all, but it is to excuse you for feeling lost and overwhelmed when faced with something so brutal at such a hard time. Give yourself as much grace and love as possible. You don't need to have all the answers straight away, you just need to be doing whatever you can to protect yourself. If you feel up to it and want to ask him then do it but only if you're ready. This is a proper SOS moment, I'd ask a friend to come pick you up honestly 😢❤️

Thank you. . I’ve been in bed since just trying to gather whatever thoughts are racing through my head right now. I just feel so broken. I was in such an abusive marriage before and vowed i could never marry again because of the sheer pain I was put through then. It took me years to finally let someone new in, to trust etc and with my husband now. It and everything just fell so wonderfully into place that in time I let my guard down, fell in love and a while later was blessed with a baby I was told I couldn’t even have. Then got married again and yet here I am. Again. Feeling defeated. Lost and broken hearted. And just, so stupid.

Try to sleep and rest. You don't need to act on anything until you're ready. You're absolutely within your rights to take a bit of time, it's a lot to deal with when you've already got so much to deal with. It's actually really good to know yourself and be mindful of your limits, this is part of what I meant about protecting yourself, you know how you process things best. You're not stupid, not even in the slightest! You've been through so much and managed to open your heart again, that's BRAVE, you're STRONG. I agree with Lisa, you will need to speak to him and get some answers to process but only when you're ready to hear what he has to say. Despite how much it hurts, now you know. Now you get to take control of your own actions from a more informed position. And one final time: this is not your fault! This is entirely on him. You have made it out of far worse situations and you will come out the other side of this, with the added bonus of your little miracle baby ❤️

Wow what an awful man. You’re pregnant with his child and he’s doing this. 100% speak to him asap.