Boyfriend OK’ed me meeting/hookups/dating girls

We’ve talked about this before, but I didn’t think he was serious. We talked today and he knows how attracted I am to girls. To the point he even was like “well, yeah you’re gay right?” He only asks to be involved a little, at least to watch me enjoying myself with a woman. He doesn’t really have a high sex drive and he doesn’t like going down on girls so I guess he doesn’t want me to feel like I’m missing out. He even added if I were to meet another woman and fall in love, then it was meant to happen and I could leave. (should that be what she wants and what I want) How many people are actually okay with this? Usually on bi dating/les apps, they seem to really not be down for couples at all.

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I have a few questions as im curious but do you really want to be with your partner if you are actively seeking another person/women? Like surely if you are not into your partner as much as your interests in other people then you should walk away whether or not he’s down for it? Or does he want it to be a three way relationship but if hes not interested in other people is this one sided on your side? Dont mean to sound rude or anything but im really curious ( you can tell me to shut up) Xx

My fiancé its okay with it but he would also like to be involved, we agree to do things together as a couple

Most women on bi/les dating sites usually aren’t interested in couples because they feel their sexuality is fetishised and don’t want to be a play thing for couples. Obviously this doesn’t speak for everyone but a lot of women are on them to actually explore a relationship with another person rather than a bit of fun in someone else’s bedroom. Also, lesbians wouldn’t be interested in a couple because they aren’t interested in men. Full stop.

Dating as a couple is usually frowned upon in the polyamorous community unless it is formed organically. Now finding a unicorn for just sex is totally different and uses different apps, though there are some cross over apps that you can use for both sex or dating. My husband is fine with me dating men and women, but it didn't start out this way.

As a lesbian I find it gross that he wants to watch. That’s him fetishizing wlw relationships and that’s not ok in my book. And if he is not supporting you dating both men and women and is just supporting you dating women is also a red flag. Just for information purposes. And it’s really weird that he’s ready to be like if you fall in love you can go- like wtf- I mean just by the fetishizing your sexuality alone I can tell he doesn’t fully care but to be like hey it if you decide to move on enjoy! Like idk i would just dump him and go start dating women if that’s what you want. You don’t need him. But if you do decide to keep him you will have best luck with bi women cuz a lot of lesbians don’t want anything to do with men like him.

@Aimeé heyy X

@Skylar he loves me so much he’s willing to do anything to keep me happy.. and I guess dating other women is better than a dude in his position. But if I wanted to,I probably could. Like, if he wouldn’t have gotten me pregnant, I probably would be dating women exclusively. I love him, and it hurts too much to leave him. I guess I’m more so look to chat w a girl open minded to my predicament but none of these other ladies seem to get where I’m coming from at all :(

Hey girl, feel free to message me. I'd love to chat with ya 😊

@Aimeé yes exactly!

This sounds like it’s not even a real relationship. Like more like a “meh, stay if you want.” Kind of vibe. 🥸

@Macey not at all he loves me and would do anything to see me happy. You have him all wrong

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