Baby regrets..?

I’m 21, I have a 2 year old in December. I still mourn my life and the life I could have had but nothing is better than your baby giving you affection. It’s normal to feel like this I believe, especially because fomo is a normal thing baby or no baby at our ages. You also have to remind yourself that just because you don’t get to do those things now doesn’t mean you can’t do them when you’re both older and do them together. Built in friend for life x

This is totally normal feeling, it shall pass, don’t worry too much on the negative side of things, at least you have ur mum and Nan, when ur baby is born you will have them to help baby sit and you can slowly get your life in order, trust all we need it’s just one family member to support us, and you will have two. I know now things may look hopeless but if you do a Instagram search or YouTube you will see a lot of mums living their lives, travelling, joyful with their children. I been with my husband 2 years and have a soon to be 2 years old baby girl, even today, I felt so bad, that I made a very bad decision getting with her dad, he’s a cheater, abuser, disrespectful. And I saw all coming and ignore it, now I kinda feel some type of regret having a child with him. But I can’t be selfish, I have to allow my daughter to live her life to the fullest as isn’t her fault. I also know that nothing lasts forever and greater days will come. Trust me, you will look back and be 😊.

Hey , i had my first son at 27 and I still felt all the exact same feelings you are feeling right now. Regardless of age you will always mourn your old life. When you gave birth to baby you also birthed a new you. It’s hard to see now but once you get into the routine of things and baby gets older , you’ll be able to make time for the stuff you used to love , It will just take a bit more thought and planning but don’t let that stop you ! It’s hard to stay positive all the time especially when going through PPD but you will get through this ! Just make sure you accept help and make time for yourself also xxx

PPD is rough. Do you have a therapist to talk to? That’s who really helps me rationalize everything.

So normal especially with what's happened. I defo struggled with ppd at the start as well. My inbox is open x

Who said it can’t happen? And yes it’s normal. You’re life isn’t over even though you feel like it is. And your baby won’t stay a baby forever. You can still do everything you want to do.

I'm 31 and I've had these thoughts. But these years with our children are short and when they're older you'll have time to do plenty of things with your life. I always look to my mum as a reminder - when me and my brother left home she did so much travelling and started so many new endeavours. It's okay to feel sad sometimes about how all-consuming being a parent is, but try to soak up the joy that comes with it as well, it won't last.

Many young mums get a new lease of life in their 40s. They live like they are 20 and have way more money to do it well and without relying on a man. Once your child is a little older they can stay over at grandma’s house etc so you can have weekenders from time to time but focus the next couple of decades on being present and levelling your income up so you can smash out your 40s going hard travelling around the world etc

Sweety life is a test, and its a very short period, focus on your little family and figure the purpose of your life why you were created? Him leaving you? The baby? I advise to read a quran at least to have a bigger perspective for life and always check why you are doing sth? May allah give you patience to get you through what is going on with you, and may allah bless you and your kid with the best days so you could recover so soon ❤️