Yes he’ll tell her we’re uncomfortable with the baby being in something that was uncovered and thrown to one corner of the attic for many years. I just don’t want to come off as ungrateful or that I’m being spiteful towards it because we don’t speak. I’m genuinely just uncomfortable with it and she’s aware of that from my first child.
You/ your partner can state that the safety sleep standards for newborn babies has changed drastically over the past 32 years and change annually. You'd prefer to use something that has passed the current safety standards for your newborn baby.
I’m about to use my own Moses basket my mum has kept for the past 29 years and I’m just going to buy a new mattress and give it a good clean HOWEVER in your circumstance can your partner not say something? Especially since you haven’t spoken for 6 months. You also don’t have to do anything you don’t want!