How are you when emotional? Anyone relate to me?

I am the same wayyyy but i think a lot of it has to do with the way i grew up. Where vulnerability was a sign of weakness so it made me uncomfortable with the “softer” side of my emotions and people touching me or trying to comfort me, would just break a dam of tears so i rather not be touched 😂😂 idk if you relate? I do see vulnerability as a sign of strength now after years of therapy but crying in front of people isn’t for me either, even though i know it’s normal 😂

@Tatiana So as a mother my kids come to me for comfort all day, but tbh I don’t ever remember doing that with either of my parents at all. I also recall when tensions grew as a teenager and we would have emotional conflicts where she would make me cry, I’d never let her see that, I’d run to my room and cry, so maybe it stems from that. I also hate the feeling of hugging my parents or soft affectionate attempts always make me cringe. I’ve been comfortable with men comforting me though, and wish my husband would when I’m vulnerable even moreso but women? No way. If they try to comfort me the flood gates won’t open, I just feel irritated and even more bottled up because now I feel weak as a awkward.

That makes sense though. You said “she would make you cry” and naturally you would hide from her seeing exactly what she would want to see out of you., :( I’m sorry you went through that. I think it’s amazing hearing moms who’ve gone through hard times emotionally as children, and become the best mommas out there because we know what it’s like to be in the other end. Women sometimes scare me because of the snakiness & i got PTSD from relationships rn but the few women i have connected with, and cried to, i cherish them til this very day even if we don’t talk & i hope you can find a friend like that 🖤 also communicate with your partner as far as how can he show up for you when you’re wanting to be vulnerable with him

Were you allowed to cry as a child? Or comforted when you did? I don’t typically cry around people. Not intentionally but my body won’t let me 😭😭

@Tatiana Honestly I have great friends and I am able to be emotionally supportive with them! I just don’t think I will ever want that with any friend, it’s just so far gone at this point haha. I appreciate what you said 🥰 thank you

@Monét I don’t remember at all. I don’t remember being comforted or looking for comfort or affection. I remember looking for validation but not comfort. Why do you think your body won’t let you?

Yup nope, hate crying Infront of people, people making it a fuss. Makes me feel so vulnerable and weak. I also apologise if I cry Infront of someone. I like to cry in private where noone can judge me or make me feel like my feelings are nothing it's safer that way I feel. I was abused as a kid so I believe that's why. My baby is free to feel his feelings, he's only one but I will never make him feel that he shouldn't be crying ectt xxx

Ya I’m not really into comfort either while upset.

I'm at the complete opposite side of wanting to be comforted when I'm emotional. I hate people seeing me cry, which has rarely happened, if I'm emotional I'd remove myself from the situation or just go quiet to hold it in.

Are you able to comfort your friends when they cry? 😭 I think it’s a comfort thing for me. If I’m very comfortable with you and I feel like I need to cry, it’ll happen. If I’m not comfortable it just doesn’t happen 😭

@R 🪬 yes exactly

@Monét yes I am but I definitely feel like they’re babies sometimes low key lol

You’re funny lol. You’re just a toughie that’s all 😂