Upset

So hubby says the only way he can get up is with water based lube but when he uses it it burns. I told him this and he proceeded to use it. I feel like I can't turn him on anymore. Also when he talks about sex 24/7 it's annoying and I finally give in and lay on the bed. I was 2 weeks postpartum and gave into having sex bc I felt pressured. I usually feel pressured 99%of the time and he won't stop asking for it to the point I just lay on the bed and he does his thing. Any help or tips would be appreciated.

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This sounds really unsafe....please reach out to someone for help if possible xx

@Emily I'm literally crying right now bc I don't feel supported at all my birthday is Friday but no family or friends and to top it off my twin brother passed away in 2022 and I can't share that with him.

I got him a stuffed unicorn for when he was on dialysis and it's the only thing I have from him and all I am doing is holding it tight and crying

How far pp are you now? Do you have any doctor follow ups booked? If so I would go alone and talk to them about this. 2 weeks pp is too soon (risk of infection) and if the lube is hurting you then you might also want to get checked about that. They can also point you in the direction of resources for help. I’m so sorry he’s treating you like this, and also so sorry to hear about your brother ❤️❤️❤️

you can't give him any wiggle room. you have to be firm with your boundaries. NO is a complete sentence and you don't need an explanation. he doesn't respect you and you do not owe him your body. next time he asks for it, just say no and that's it. say no until he leaves you alone. you can regain control here.

btw his failure to stay hard his not your fault

Unless it is enthusiastic consent. It’s not consent.

@Kathryn I'm currently 5 weeks pp

You should have an appointment next week then for your 6 week check up? I would discuss with your doctor both in terms of making sure you are ok down there and also in that you don’t feel safe, they should be able to put you in touch with people to help if you want to leave that situation 🙏

@Kathryn my OB said I don't need a 6 week appointment

Before 6 weeks postpartum is literally risking your life. Don't risk your LIFE and leave your kid without a mom because your husband is a sex addicted degenerate! Trust me I know how you feel cause my husband is also super annoying about sex but even he didn't start to pressure me until at least 5 weeks postpartum ! I'm sorry this is happening to you. Try to make him feel ashamed about being a pervert and maybe he will stop that's what I did maybe he needs self reflection

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