Since becoming a mum, I still get sad now and then that I don’t really know who I am anymore
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Get help! Talk to family and friends. Ask them to remind you of your qualities and dreams. It’s a fog of tiredness and responsibilities now but that will slowly lift and you will see more clearly. Talk to your Gap about getting therapy if you need, talking to a professional is really important to help you through these ups and downs.
Talk to your GP* or maybe health visitor
100%, mentally emotionally and physically, nothing is the same as before. Nothing changes you more than having a baby and it is so hard because it is not talked about enough. My baby is nearly 13 months and hear you and know exactly how you feel 💙
I feel this post and want to let you know you're not alone. My baby is 10months. It's a struggle, at times more than others. Sometimes it's socialising, other times I don't even know what clothes I like to wear. Then other day I tried to go shopping (baby in toe) and kept asking myself who and I and what do I like? Super unsettling at the time. The main thing that's helped me is taking off the pressure and letting me get to know me again first (sounds strange). Returning to old activities slowly and trying new stuff too.
Thanks ladies, it’s good to hear other women going through something similar
I think the pressure of knowing who you are I’m not losing yourself is too high. I think it’s fully normal for priorities the change when you have a baby, it’s a maternal instinct to prioritise them. Don’t put pressure on yourself you’re doing an amazing job. I definitely felt the same way, but also know that when things settle you can bounce back. Try not to stop all the things that you love doing for yourself. Hopefully you have that support