When does it get better?

Ohh 🥺 congratulations on birthing your baby. I hope it will pass for you, I think the sadness lasted a week or so for me. It really helped me to communicate how I was feeling when I eventually felt brave enough to, and when I let it out in the open, some things didn’t feel so bad or scary anymore. If it is keeping you from caring for yourself or your baby or you’re having harmful thoughts it would be best to speak to a professional. It’s a huge hormonal shift, and a lot happens when hormones suddenly drop and your body is preparing for milk to come in and the adrenaline from labouring slowly disappears. Be open about your feelings if you can, and when it gets too much, let someone know they need take over with baby while you gather yourself.

My baby blues stopped around 8 days pp. Such a bizarre feeling, everyone talks about this “newborn bubble” however fails to mention the baby blues. I felt an immense sadness feeling, anxiety, guilt over everything, self doubt, worrying if my baby is happy enough, looked after well enough etc. It does get better I promise even tho it probably doesn’t feel like it now. Things start to make more sense, things start to become a bit more normal and I’m sure you’ll get the hang of things in time. I’m now 3.5 weeks pp so am no where near free of the feelings yet but they have sure got better. Please message if you like as it’s an awful feeling that no one talks about enough, I felt so so guilty for feeling that way and felt like i was the only person that had ever felt that way 💙🥺 reach out if you need to!x

I sobbed every day several times for the first two weeks. Just had this deep despair that wouldn't go away. Remember sobbing and not being able to look at my son because I was just exhausted and sad. My sister and mother in law gave me a couple nights of sleep where I got more than 3 hrs and that helped a lot, but I ultimately just needed time for my emotions to level. It sucks right now because your hormones are going crazy. This is not a forever feeling. Reach out to friends and family for extra support if you can - your body is healing from a major event right now and you need all the rest you can get. wishing you the best <3

I was depressed for like 3 months

Congratulations mama 🥹🫶🏼 I’m sorry you’re going through this. My feelings didn’t fully regulate till 6 months in. Everyone is different. This won’t last forever though, trust me. Take it day by day and take deep breaths when you’re overwhelmed. Cry if you have to, it’s okay! Any signs of full emptiness like the feeling to hurt yourself or others.. please tell a loved one that you need help or counseling. Have a friend to chat with. Baby blues are a crazy phenomenon because the only way we can experience it is through giving birth. No one can really tell you how it’ll be or how to feel. You’re strong mama! You got this 🤍

Take your time. It's such a shock to the system at first. It's definitely not how I'd imagined at first, coupled with the lack of sleep. I'm hoping you're surrounded by good people although I found it is difficult for some to relate unless they went through it. It can take time to feel like yourself. I think mine was more than baby blues as I'm now 6 months PP and I've only just started to feel like some of the feelings have disappeared and my anxiety is going. Also speak to your midwives and health visitors when they visit. Feel free to get in touch too x