Debating adoption

I feel awful but I hate being a mum, i don’t feel maternal in any way. I don’t like holding my baby and I feel happier when im not with her and she just feels like a chore. Despite these feelings i always respond to her cues and cuddle her even though I just want to put her down and do my own thing. She is always clean, fed and happy. The past week i just feel like i want to give her up, and give her a happy life with a stable family and people who can give her everything she wants. I don’t deserve my baby I just want these feelings to go away
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Have you spoke to any professionals about these thoughts? If not I recommend you do asap. You can get help 🙂

I say its a HUGE decision but its YOUR decision. I think there will be some haters but if you dont believe its for you maybe its not. I do think like Jessica said talk to a professional who can help you navigate these feelings before making a permanent decision

How old is your baby? These feelings are not unusual with postpartum depression and initial baby blues. Talk with a professional and other people who know you before making any decisions ❤️

I always wanted my son, but when he was born I didn’t want skin to skin. I didn’t feel a connection right away, it took like after he started walking that I felt motherly and connected with him. He’s the best thing I could have ever asked for in life, I just didn’t feel that way the first year he was born. You should talk to a professional. Don’t make a permanent decision on feelings that aren’t permanent. Good luck

I feel the same way, although I'm halfway through my pregnancy 🥲

Could this be post partum depression? I would speak to a professional before you make any decisions. This is not a decision you can go back on so you need to be sure. Not sure if you planned the pregnancy/if you’re a single mum, if unplanned then I can definitely see where you’re coming from. But if you planned it then I think give it a bit more of a chance - how old is baby?

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