early miscarriage…coping?
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@Porshia thank you so much for this, this really made my heart feel so much more at peace. i keep trying to tell myself God had different plans for us as a family as well as for that little baby. maybe it just wasn’t our time for another baby. God will only give us what we can handle and what will make us stronger😔❤️ thank you so much and we’re all in this together
I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and didn’t find out until the ultrasound at 10 weeks bc I had a hemorrhage. It’s heart wrenching. It’s not your fault, I think of my baby every single day. Whenever I see a rainbow I always think it’s them watching over me❤️. What’s crazy tho, I had a dream I’m sure the night I miscarried that my grandma (she’s passed) came and took the baby and said “I’ll take good care of them” I never woke up so fast, but also have some peace that they’re up there with their great grandma😭. But basically I’m still hurting but found some peace. You didn’t do anything wrong, dont blame yourself. I’m here if you need to talk 🫶
@Kaylynn that’s so beautiful that you got that peace in a way in your dream. my dreams are always so vivid when i’m pregnant it’s scary but surreal 🥺🫶🏼
You did nothing wrong at all. Nearly all the time, early losses are not preventable, no matter how much we may try. I had an early loss as well. At 6 weeks, I found out I was having twins, and by 9 weeks, one had lost their heartbeat and had not grown in 2 weeks. I definitely recommend therapy if you can, or you might be able to find peer support programs to talk to someone who has also gone through what you have, the one I was directed to was called PAIL (pregnancy and infant loss). I found talking to someone who had gone through what I did (and was trained to be a peer support) really helpful. Something I learned as well is losses that early usually mean the baby had a genetic abnormality, something that they wouldn't have survived to birth or would only survive for only a short while if they did make it to birth. For me, I found it really helpful to think about it that way because it meant they weren't in any pain. It's hard not to blame yourself, but there really is nothing you could have done.
Please message me if you need someone to talk to. I just went through my second early miscarriage 4 weeks ago so totally understand how your feeling. Its hard because your partner or family or friends can be there for you but you can still feel so alone.
You did nothing wrong. I’m sorry for your loss, it’s an awful thing. I lost my first pregnancy at 7 weeks. Went for an ultrasound and my baby had no heartbeat. I was devastated and had gruesome nightmares for months. I should’ve went to therapy, I regret not going, so maybe that’s something for you. Alternatively, I had some comfort in the belief that my baby was needed more in heaven (if that’s what you believe) and that their mission on earth, as short lived as it was, was complete. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you, you did nothing wrong